First time experiences (from the girls P.O.V.)

[Fairy Princess]

um, ok, well, my bf & i have decided to "consumate" our relationship on our 1st year anniversary (which is comming up soon, in like a month).
Neither of us has ever done it before, & im hella nervous. you all know how it is when ur gonna do something uve never done b4- many worries!
Like for one, im worried about the physical pain it may cause me at first.

Well, to get to the point here, i was just wondering if anyone would share their first time experiences, so i can kind of get a feel of what to expect- i know it different for everyone, & i dont want gory details or anything, just maybe a few tips or something. thanks!

[Tortuga]

Well, Fairy Princess, I think the one thing that all girls will tell you is to RELAX. That is the #1 thing you can do to make the sexual experience less painful and more enjoyable. Make sure there's lots of foreplay so you're both physically ready for the actual act, and make sure to have protection very handy...if it's not nearby, one of two things could happen...#1, you or he will have to go searching for it and thus kinda kill the mood, or #2 and worse, the two of you will decide to go ahead and do it anyway because it's not worth all the trouble finding a condom.

Another suggestion, one you might not like to hear...I really wouldn't put so much pressure on "consumating" on your one-year anniversary. That just puts an awful lot of unnecessary stress on the both of you. Here you are, celebrating your one year of bliss, and the entire night neither of you can enjoy what's happening because all you're thinking is, "Wow, tonight I lose my virginity." I'm not saying it shouldn't happen that night, but I just wouldn't be so...planned about it, I guess. I mean, obviously be prepared and whatever, but don't be totally disappointed if it just doesn't happen that night. My honey and I tried doing it on our 8-month anniversary, and we were both so nervous that it just didn't happen. And we were both okay with that, yeah a little let down, but we tried again a couple of nights later and it was wonderful because there wasn't so much pressure about it.

Getting to the actual act...I won't lie to you...it hurt. And it hurt quite a bit. At first it felt like his penis was kinda scraping the inside of my vagina, which wasn't very comfortable at all. The part that really hurt, though, was when he broke my hymen. Youch!! It felt like...well...it felt like what it was, which was a ripping of my skin. However, that pain lasted less than a second as he pushed his way through, and after that it was smooth sailing. Absolutely amazing. I didn't bleed during intercourse, but when I went to the bathroom afterwards I bled. And I bled for probably a couple of days. But it was so worth it. Good Luck, and remember...RELAX!! :)

Tortuga

[Barefoot Matt]

I agree that to relax is the best advice you could get. I have a couple things to add. First, you might want to use lubricated condoms. might help with that scraping feeling tortuga described. Second, don't go into it expecting it to be magical, because it usually isn't. To prove my point, check out the results of my poll at http://rf.thedesigneng.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=1085. I'm not saying that you shouldn't make the best of it, just don't be too disappointed if it doesn't go very well the first time.

[BigJim]

get extra lube.

it'll help tremenduously

[super_chevy2000]

Relax and communicate. We were both virgins and had talked alot about how we felt before hand (we had sex on our one year anniversery for the first time). You both need to take it slow with alot of foreplay, Make sure you are good and wet before he penetrates you and stay very relaxed. This is what we done and it worked very well for us. First time penetration didn't hurt me. The very first thrust was a little uncomfortable but then it got easier. Most girls say it hurts but I think the reason it didn't hurt me was because We were comfortable talking to each other, we took it slow and my bf was really gentle with me.

[DarkSeductress]

Ok, I lost my virginity to the love of my life a couple of months ago so the memory's still kinda fresh... Well, it did hurt BUT not so much that I'd think back on it afterwards and decide not to have gone through with it. It just didn't hurt that much for me. Yes, like everyone said it was a sharp piercing type of pain for maybe round about 30seconds-1minute (not exact cos I wasn't exactly in the mood to time) but it's not long at all.

It really really helped too cos he got some lubrication to smooth out the process. See, the first time we tried we couldn't get it in, we just needed that extra little help so get lubrication if you can.

[JessiMari]

Gosh just readin this makes me even more scare of losing my Virginity! :o ...I'm a very nervious person and I know for sure that the day I lose my Virginity it will hurt like hell!...I'm scaarredd :o

[Prism]

i was scared at first too before my BF and i did it for the first time, but it actually didn't hurt at ALL. we talked about it alot beforehand, and i wasn't nervous, and it initally didn't hurt at all. it did hurt a little as the condom started getting dry, so i'd reccomend maybe using a bottled lube (like astroglide) as well - we use that now and it makes everything SO much better.

i think whether or not it hurts the first time really depends on the girl though... *shrug*

[Shocka]

The part that really hurt, though, was when he broke my hymen. Youch!!

This is what makes me wonder. Didn't you two have manual sex (fingering, handjobs) before you jumped into sex? If he fingers you before you have sex, it can 'loosen' the vagina muscles and make it less painful, and it will also break the hymen before actual sex.

Good advice, peoples.

Shocka#%!#$TGdsgy`1#$

[Tootsie Pop]

My first time wasnt planned... in fact I knew him for a very short time before it happened... but he was just special and I knew it from the start.

But one night we were just in his room cuddling, and one thing led to another....

It hurt a little... but I loved him so much and wanted to lose it to him so it didnt matter how much it hurt. It wasnt an unbearable pain. He was really gentle.. and I remember reading here on the forums to relax, so I did. I would imagine that relaxing helped tremendously. Think about it: If the pain is "HORRIBLE" would any girl ever want to lose their virginity? Its not that bad. Its worth it. :)

[Tortuga]

To Shocka,

Yes he did finger me, several times before we actually had intercourse. Fingering doesn't *always* break the hymen.

Tortuga

[Fairy Princess]

wow, i havent gotten to commin back here for while to see who replied to my post, but alot of you did, & thank you to those who did. Its all really good advice.
I do usually try to tell myself to relax (or my bf does at least) when were messin around, but like jessi mari, i get nervous very easily!! :oops: But from what ive read, i hope it wont be too bad, i know my bf will be as gentle as possible with me- hes good like that! Im lucky, i got one of those "good guy" bfs! :)
And even if it doesnt happen on the day of our anniversary (actually i know it wont be that exact day, cuz it would be at his house, but his mom has that day off from work so there went that idea, but anyways....) back to what i was saying... even if it doesnt happen right away, i know he'll be ok with it- a little let down im sure, as would any red blooded male, but he'll get over it. Hes already told me several times that he would never pressure me to do anything i didnt want to do. I mean- he still tells me i dont have to give him head if i dont want to & ive already done it b4 with him!!

But anyways, if more people still want to post their advice, be my guest- go right ahead, i can sure use it!
Grazi, Grazi!! 8)