Approaching a 'Group'

[Polar Bear]

Just curious (this has nothing to do with the current girl that I'm going after), guys, how do you successfully approach a group of females (as in, exceeding 3)? I've had difficulty in that, its relatively easy for me to approach just about any girl, or any girl + her friend. But when it comes to groups, I have difficulty in getting anywhere.

Its relatively simple to approach and strike a conversation when you have a small number, but when the numbers grow you need to somehow have a conversation with all of them - you can't just single specific people out. I've had problems in the past with group conversations; they just don't last long, and most of the time not everyone is interested either.

So guys, how do you successfully approach a group of females (exceeding 3) and continue with a conversation?

And gals, how do you like to be approached when in a group? I.E. what would you expect the guy to do, what things should he say?

OH Btw, my aim is basically to become friends with them, not necessarily get phone numbers or anything like that. And I can't find a post from either FGarcia1, Starfish, JessieC or from the forums itself concerning this topic.

[sunfrost]

OH Btw, my aim is basically to become friends with them, not necessarily get phone numbers or anything like that. And I can't find a post from either FGarcia1, Starfish, JessieC or from the forums itself concerning this topic.

What's so special about asking for phone numbers, can't imagine not to have them. The fact that you ask for a phone number doesn't mean you are interested in a girl in a romantic way. Is it forbidden to call someone just to have a good time or what?

[Raptor]

the only way i can approach a group of more than a couple of girls is if i know at least one of them already


so if ure interested in one in this group, become friends with a couple of others first, then approach them all, and 'meet' the one u like like that :)

[8IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIID]

I'm wondering why you'd want to be friends with people you don't even know. what's so speshul about them if you don't think they're hot? anywho if you want to tackle that, you should approach some of them in smaller #'s at least. because unless you're hilariously funny and pretty goddamn confident, you ain't gonna have the entire group's attention. I also think you cud approach the group and single out one or two of them. You said you don't want to do that, but you should. You can concentrate on "becoming friends" with a few of them and then sneak some others into the convo. eg. u'd be talking about something and then look at one of the others and say, "what do you think?" or "how about you?" or some queer shit like that :P

sidenote: possible scenario where you could get the entire group's attention without too much risk- make up some interesting, funny questions and pretend you're conducting a survey. you probably could hang around a bit after that.

[dek]

I hate large groups cause you can't get anything accomplished. Just single out and focus on the ones you want to get to know

[zoe]

Be weird, or say something funny.

[Polar Bear]

sunfrost: That's not the point of my post, but if you are just targetting that one statement I made, the phrase you missed is 'not necessarily'. I could get their phone numbers, but that's not my main ambition, and it probably wouldn't work well, getting each and every girls number anyway (it's best just to single out a handful for #, not while they're in a group).

8IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIID: Well, it could (and mostly would) apply in a situation whereby there are particular females which are "hot". But to make things less complicated, I just made up a hypothetical where there's a mutual relationship.

But see, if I just single out a girl, I still need to make the initial approach, which goes back to my original post. But I guess from the posts so far, it seems evident that the only workable option I have is to befriend at least one of the girls first...

For all your replies so far, thanks. I need some more female opinions on this.

[sft2hrdtco]

I'd say avoid the big groups of friends, because it normally would just end in failure and embarrassment..But if you insist on it, do something stupid that'll get some laughs, like run up and trip or say something funny..But if you could, wait til the girl is by herself, which you said you are much more comfortable with..goodluck!

[chiukit]

yes, i'd also say that you do something incredibly entertaining and keep them entertained for 10 minutes or so... after that... theres your first impression.

[NerveAgent]

my friend does that... trying to approach a whole group. It's tough business. Actually the group ends up slowly running away one at a time. Now that is funny.

[goofball]

this is damn near impossible.

remember, divide and conquer

or wait for the weak to seperate from the heard

[Stratocaster]

this is damn near impossible.

remember, divide and conquer

or wait for the weak to seperate from the heard

I think you meant to spell it as "herd", not "heard".

[Polar Bear]

Haha, what great advice you guys give :)

But yeh, I can understand what you all mean... I've tried it unsuccessfully before.

[Crash Override]

The easiest way to do this is to bring someone (a male) that you know with you when approaching this group, and, as goofball said - "divide and conquer."

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[chiukit]

or... take a bunch of guy friends and...


AAATTAACCKKKK!!! :lol:

[joss_of_caramel]

it may sseem a bit random if like one guy approached a group of us girls, but if a groups of guys approacehed a group of girls, thats a bit better...kinda safety in numbers kinda thing..

and i think a sense of humour is alwyas good, but not so u begin acting like a total doofus..just soemthing that'll get us laughing in a good way...

[1Diamond Tiara]

Hey polar bear snobbed me off ey? :)
anyways i know it can be intimidating but personally don't worry about making conversations with everyone in the group just stick with a few people and say hi to everyone. thats what i did when approaching a group of guys - which can also be intimidating :) except i just said hi hows it going to the guy i knew. and hey what girl are u chasing now? i can't keep up with u :) check ur inbox :P

[Wrightman84]

i usually wait for a stray, or somebody who is just standing there and listening to the conversation

[shaggy]

goofball is right.

definetly divide and conquer. when women are in groups they can literally tear you to shreds, just from the glaring :P

[moonangel]

That explains why it is so damn easy to pick up when I am standing alone..