Inexperience or PE (Premature Ejaculation)

[Boombuster]

Hi all.

Well, I do think I'm informed somewhat however just wanted other people's opinions.

I am definitely not 'sexually active' and am technically a virgin. Lost it to a girl at a club that I regret now (and don't remember how long I lasted cuz I was drunk). But I've only done it once, so I'm pretty much inexperienced. Anyway, my current girlfriend gave me a blowjob recently however I came in about 1-1.5 minutes or so. Now I'm worried that I may not be able to control it, especially if we do sexual intercourse. She's assured me that I'll get better as I get used to it and she's been very supportive however I'm still worried.

Is it due to my inexperience and does it get better? I'm uncircumsized and she licked the foreskin back so my penis head was VERY VERY sensitive. Don't know if that affected anything. Now I do NOT want to use any herbs/medications/viagra, etc, because I don't believe in those stuff, however I do want to be able to last longer for my girlfriend.

I have heard about the PC muscle and supposedly it will help control the orgasm, however I have also heard that the constant contraction of the PC muscle may in fact contribute to premature ejaculation. Any thoughts from people knowledgable in these areas??

Also breathing techniques are supposed to help. I find I'm not breathing as naturally as I usually do. Sometimes I'm not even sure if I'm breathing at all and have to remind myself to breath. Thoughts on this?

Lastly there's another technique that can be used which is to approach the orgasm as close as you can and then relax until your penis has shrunken and start again. Does this actually work? Aren't you just relaxing physically and starting over? So how is this supposed to increase your control?

Any discussion is appreciated (even if it doesn't refer to me) including life experiences, etc. Thanks.

[kuju]

uh... doesn't that "losing it" part mean that you're technically NOT a virgin?

and I have to make the usualy suggestion. Mastubation. Jerk off until you feel yourself getting close... then back off. "Think unsexy thoughts" in the words of Homer Simpson. Start again, get close, back off. repeat until you can't take it any more. This builds your endurance.

With her, tell her to NOT go directly to the up-and-down sucking/pumping. Prolonging your enjoyment of the blowjob is the point of it, not cumming as quickly as possible. Ask her to tone it down at the start... touching the penis, then backing off, doing something else for a second... a little on the penis, a little somewhere else, etc. it builds excitement without getting you going too much. when she finally focuses directly on the penis, she should vary her techniques between intense and light. Decide together that you want to better you endurance, and you need her help. Tell her when you feel yourself gettign close, and agree taht she'll back off for a little while, let you cool down a BIT (you don't want to lose the erection) and then start up again. It's the on-again, off-again method that will build endurance. Not to mention... PRACTICE! Enjoy!

[BigJim]

btw... minute or two on a blow job is alright for first attempt.

[Am I tight or not?]

many things mess up with your "time" (I dunno how to say this :lol: )

when I was having sex with my ex, it would vary from 5 minutes to never.

if I was really horny and wasn't wearing a condom it would happen fast. if I had a condom it would take longer cause the condom takes away a lot of the sensation (maybe that's just me).

if I wasn't horny and had a condom, it might never happen (that was annoying)

and the thing is, I'm not "experienced" or anything.

practice will help. being less horny will also help (don't expect a long performance if you haven't done anything in a month :lol:)

[Wolf]

just jerk off a lot and make it last each time

[Ducky]

That and when you have sex with your girlfriend, think of wrinkly, old men, lying naked on a sandy beach. Thats what I think of :lol:

[goofball]

inexperience and premature ejaculation are not quite the same thing.

at first, you will usually come quickly because things are new and you are being stimualted in new ways and such.
as you build experience and become somewhat accustomed to things that time will increase.

preamature ejaculatino is when you come well before you usually do. i.e. you have plenty of experience then one day you're just going along and pbth! all of a sudden you're done.

[SoSweetAngel]

I wouldn't worry about it. It will improve with time.

Girls don't mind if you don't last forever.
Masturbating (as kuju said) may help. Experience will too. Having the girl mess around before getting down to it will extend the whole experience.
Don't get too stressed¬

[Tuna]

uh... doesn't that "losing it" part mean that you're technically NOT a virgin?

and I have to make the usualy suggestion. Mastubation. Jerk off until you feel yourself getting close... then back off. "Think unsexy thoughts" in the words of Homer Simpson. Start again, get close, back off. repeat until you can't take it any more. This builds your endurance.


that would drive me crazy

[Lone Wolf]

and I'm concerned about not coming...

hahahaha world's funny... sometimes... :mrgreen:


Lone Wolf