beth321_01
June 20th, 2002, 11:11 AM
Ok the other day I posted a topic talking about how my bf was saying one day how much he wanted to be with me and the next day saying he didn't like me like that, that he always has a great time with me, and that i'm one of his closest friends, but he doesn't think a relationship is going to work, but that he wanted to go out again this weekend just to make sure that there was nothing there. I still don't really know why he practically changed his mind over night, but I have a few ideas now. He hasn't called me back yet, but now I know thats because he's been working 2 full time jobs.
I really don't know what to think now. I talked to my bf's best friend who I work with, and he was telling me that on last Saturday all my bf could talk about was how much he loves me, how I'm always on his mind, and how he thinks that I might be "the one". The only bad thing that he said was that I need to learn to relax a little more, that I get too up tight about a few things....which I know that I do. My bf's friend couldn't believe that he was telling me on Sunday that he didn't want to be with me. His friend seems to think that my bf was completely serious about wanting to go out dancing this weekend with me. He figured that my bf was annoyed about me getting upset about his playing pool, and what he said about not wanting to be with me, was said without thinking, and thats why he was so quick to agree to go out this weekend. His neighbor's daughter will sit there and watch/play with him for hours at a time and my bf's friend said that that was most likely the whole reason he got annoyed. Just because this other girl (who my bf wouldn't consider dating) will play pool for hours on end, he got a little annoyed with me, which I can understand because I wasn't all that happy with him playing pool for like 3 hours, to me it gets boring kinda quick.
The thing is now that I thought i had everything figured out, I was going to give up on trying to talk to him, and just forget about him because he wasn't calling me back. But now i know that he started working full time at his second job.....meaning that he's working a first and third shift job, and i'm working a second shift job.....so out of a 24 hour day, we are home for about 3 hours a day at the same time....from 11pm to midnight, and from 5am to 7am. I thought that I had everything sorted out in my head, I was just going to forget about him because I figured that he had forgotten about me, but now after talking to his friend, its just made me think about how much he really does mean to me. Should I give him a second chance? Technically we are still together right now, since he said that he would make a final decision about us on Saturday. I don't know if I should risk being hurt again, my head tells me to forget about him, but my heart is saying that he's really something special and to not give up with out a fight. Is it really worth being hurt though? If I get out now, before I have to see him again, I won't be hurt anymore, but if I give him another chance, and things just fall apart after the weekend, I don't know if I can take being hurt like that again. What should I do??
I really don't know what to think now. I talked to my bf's best friend who I work with, and he was telling me that on last Saturday all my bf could talk about was how much he loves me, how I'm always on his mind, and how he thinks that I might be "the one". The only bad thing that he said was that I need to learn to relax a little more, that I get too up tight about a few things....which I know that I do. My bf's friend couldn't believe that he was telling me on Sunday that he didn't want to be with me. His friend seems to think that my bf was completely serious about wanting to go out dancing this weekend with me. He figured that my bf was annoyed about me getting upset about his playing pool, and what he said about not wanting to be with me, was said without thinking, and thats why he was so quick to agree to go out this weekend. His neighbor's daughter will sit there and watch/play with him for hours at a time and my bf's friend said that that was most likely the whole reason he got annoyed. Just because this other girl (who my bf wouldn't consider dating) will play pool for hours on end, he got a little annoyed with me, which I can understand because I wasn't all that happy with him playing pool for like 3 hours, to me it gets boring kinda quick.
The thing is now that I thought i had everything figured out, I was going to give up on trying to talk to him, and just forget about him because he wasn't calling me back. But now i know that he started working full time at his second job.....meaning that he's working a first and third shift job, and i'm working a second shift job.....so out of a 24 hour day, we are home for about 3 hours a day at the same time....from 11pm to midnight, and from 5am to 7am. I thought that I had everything sorted out in my head, I was just going to forget about him because I figured that he had forgotten about me, but now after talking to his friend, its just made me think about how much he really does mean to me. Should I give him a second chance? Technically we are still together right now, since he said that he would make a final decision about us on Saturday. I don't know if I should risk being hurt again, my head tells me to forget about him, but my heart is saying that he's really something special and to not give up with out a fight. Is it really worth being hurt though? If I get out now, before I have to see him again, I won't be hurt anymore, but if I give him another chance, and things just fall apart after the weekend, I don't know if I can take being hurt like that again. What should I do??