Why is she contacting MY friends?

[WanderingMan]

Ok, so we have mutual friends. This is something that CAN'T be avoided. However, she has two good friends in town and ALL my friends are here. I know and realize it's too soon to act and tlak as if nothing has happened though. Out of nowhere, she messages a good friend of mine about my friend's current relatiosnhip.

It's like, it's only been 2wks. And I wont tell my friends who they can or cant tlak to. However, its like she is just acting / or trying to at least act as if nothing happened. Just kinda like, you got your friends and I got mine...back off.

Her email said "who is the cute guy in the profile pic...inquiring minds want to know". It's like, why the fuck are ya trying to act so chummy??? Here it is only 2.5wks or so, and she's trying to be 'friends with" my frienbds...when she didn't even wanna try tiwth me.

Would I be wrong is I assumed this is a way to in some way stay connected to me? Don't get me wrong, I haven't and won't message or email or wahtever her...just seems a bit "out of nowhere".

[Ms. Islip]

Sounds more like she's just trying to piss you off.

[WanderingMan]

lol...yeah. a week ago I woulda been "pissed off". Somebody said to not even opay ehr attention...and I won't. Now, i am more mosquito-level annoyed. I guess she sis just back to being her "old self"...kinda sad actually. But alas, c'est la vie no?

[Tootsie Pop]

Yeah. She is trying to pretend that she is "so over you" in hopes that it gets back to you. She is being childish. Dont react to it. If you dont show a reaction, she will move on with her life. The message that she sent seemed very disrespectful anyway. Maybe your friend will recognize that and refuse to play into it... BUT, like you said, you cant tell your friend to feel that way.

[WanderingMan]

Oh my friend noticed it right away. She even asked me about responding before she did. I left it up to her. My friend told her who it was and a little description. Beyond that she said if my ex started about me, she would "let he rknow" whose side she is on...lolol

Let her do what she wants. it's not liek my friends are going to fall for her traps or believe her lies.

[Tootsie Pop]

That's good to hear. She is being immature, and hopefully she will get the message quickly when she realizes that no one, especially not you, will be subscribing to her antics.

[WanderingMan]

Espcially after the news today of my dad's heart being in "seriously bad shape"...this kinda shit is just flat unwanted. As if I will concern myself with her childish behavuor when my father is truly "deathly ill". My friends are smart and got my back...let her do what she wants. Sooner or later she WILL get the message that it's done.

[Gezus]

Seriously, you have to organize things in such a way that she can't contact you , and you can't get any news about her.

I go to school with the girl who screwed me over, and I have no idea what kind of person she is anymore, nor what her life is like. I've taken her off pretty much everything except Facebook, and I'm managing excellent.

[WanderingMan]

yeah I've done the same. Aside form changing my # (again) there's not much else I can do. I guess fact is if she calls, I obviously don't answer. if she emails or texts...simply erase. beyond that, not much else to do.

[Gezus]

Block her e-mail. Block whatever she uses to text you. Take her off your MySpace. Et cetera.

[WanderingMan]

yeah...thats the plan.

[Prism]

Would she have considered these people her friends when you guys were dating? How long were you together for?

My ex and I dated for 3 years, he lived at home, and I lived in his hometown for school (both went to the same school). I thus became friends with MANY of his friends - from HS and from college - because we all went to school together. I still message his best friends, not out of disrespect to him or a way to "get him back" but because I got to know them so well I'd consider them "my" friends now too (although I know they will ALWAYS be his best friends). Just a thought.

EDIT: Whoops just saw that you said she doesn't even want to be friends with you, although maybe she still just wants to stay friends with yours, she could just be using it to piss you off. If your friends have no desire to be friends with HER, than just block, delete, and don't let it get to you :)

[WanderingMan]

She was at best aquantices with most, maybe "friends" with 1 or 2 at best. Nothing to the level that would truly make her feel like she "has to" keep in contact. I agree with you though, it is a tactic to "get to me". I just can't let it...plain and simple.

[Gezus]

yeah...thats the plan.

Just do it. It isn't something you plan and then wait to do.

[WanderingMan]

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