I'm too scared....Help PLEASE!!

[sft2hrdtco]

My scenario: I am too scared to kiss my girlfriend. Although I'm positive she wants it. I'm just too nervous.

Has this happened to you? How can you overcome it? I love her so much, but I'm just way too scared. :oops: Please help me! I know this is going to be open criticism on me for my insecurity and whatnot, but please all I need is answers/help, not someone's smartass words.

[Scooter]

LOL Calm down for starters. You are overthinking it. There is nothing to be ashamed of. My advice is just to go for it. When you let your lips do the talking, you don't overthink anything. It might be tough to nail the first one, but it only gets better. Just relax, and make sure to have fun. You gotta have fun when you are kissing or else it isn't worth it. :cool3:

[jungAH]

First thing I'd say, if it'll help at all... first kisses with a guy never came, like, planned out or anything. It wasn't like, "Okay... ready... NOW! GO GO GO!" or anything :lol: (and I don't think anybody's are...)... it just sorta happens, and after that first initial one, it gets easier and easier. Don't stress too much about it. Like Scott said above, relax, have fun... cuz it IS fun~! *cheeky grin*

[dingbeams]

yah...chill :wink:
when u feel like you really want to kiss her, go with the flow. who knows? -she- might move to meet your lips halfway and *boom* there's your first kiss with her 8)

[eatshit]

Heehee just wait for the right moment, then i'm sure you'll gather the confidence to do something because it will feel right! :)

[LuckyRiverJordan]

definitly. Just chill and take a deep breath. i know that sounds hard and easier said then done, huh? But really...chill and go for it. it only gets betta.

[JessiMari]

Aww poor thing...Calm down...I've been through that...but good thing he initiated it...uff...Anyways boy... just like everyone here has said...Just relax and DO IT!!...If you know she wants it then DO IT...It's not like you're going to have sex....Kisses are simple...Come on hun...Just relax and know that everything will be ok and you wont regret it!! I promise...GOOD LUCK!! :wink:

[Clive Sparrow]

well, I really think you are just thinkin about it way more than you should be! just, don't worry about screwing anything up, because then you are gonna be nervous and you can't help being nervous if you think you're gonna screw up. just calm down about it, ok? I mean, if you actually love this girl like you say (which is doubtful, but that's just because I think people use that word too loosely) then you should know that she's not gonna think you're bad at it!

[Fox]

It's not like you're going to have sex....

yeah dude, its special but compared to other things, it isn't something to get that worked up about...good luck.

[indigold]

I'm sure we were all to a degree, scared that we wouldn't perform well during our first kiss. Read through all these threads in the forum on how to kiss, because they've helped me lots and made me lots less nervous.

[Roguish Grin]

I went through this too.....my gf and I have been going out for almost a month, and it took me that long to kiss her. :oops: The reason was, I knew it was gonna be her first kiss, and I wanted to make it special for her. So I waited until the last day of school, right before she left for a month on vacation. I just hugged her goodbye, then held her at arms length and stroked her cheek. I wispered, "Can I kiss you before you go?" and then just did it. :) No big deal...now I have to wait a month before I can kiss her again though... :cry:

[sft2hrdtco]

Well..Today was quite interesting for me. I did spend all day with my girlfriend, and I pulled through with the kissing! :) So that's all good! But when I got home, I found out my oldest brother was getting married, and that him and his now fiance, are having a baby! So I'd say today was probably the greatest of my life!! :D Thank you sincerely for all your help and support, it's great to have such willing 'friends' in such a place to offer such kind words of support and advice.

[Roguish Grin]

Yay! Congrats... :wink:

[Adonis]

3 Step Process for a surefire kiss:

1. Like getting a shot at the doctors, suck it in and just do it.
2. DON'T ASK
3. Either catch her REALLY on guard (staring into eyes), or COMPLETELY off guard (when she's looking away for a second and she turns back).

[Roguish Grin]

2. DON'T ASK


A good idea...most of the time. If you do it right, the effect is really romantic. Like I said earlier in this thread, I was hugging her goodbye, and leaned over and whispered, "Can I kiss you before you go?" I dunno...but that worked for me. In general thou, I agree, don't ask. :wink: