I could use some serious help/advice by tonight

[quiettryit]

I'll give you a brief history. I'm fifteen and in high school, and there's this girl that I've liked for quite some time. She's liked me too off and on, and the last time we both liked each other was a long story, but in short I made a mistake and ended it. It wasn't anything serious really, I was just jealous, but it ended up killing that possibility.

So she's moved on, and I pretty much haven't. She likes this other guy, and today I had a pretty good time with her, and I think she did with me too. The other guy was sitting with his friends, but I sat with her, and towards the end of class he sat by us and they started having what looked to me like a very flirty time. It really hurt, and I want this girl back so badly. I know she could like me again, as she has a lot in the past.

Tonight and tommorow night there are these dances where we live, and I know her, the other guy, and I are all going. She was considering not going, but he convinced her, and I'm really worried they're going to be together having a great and special time the entire night. Not that I'd normally mind, but seeing the girl you are so interested in with the other guy that you want to be is nothing short of heartbreaking, right? I don't know what to do. She likes him, and he likes her, as well as two other girls last I've known. The only one that knows both of these things is me. Hard situation, isn't it?

Anyways... tonight I really want to do the right thing. It's so hard because I like her so much, and I've been so close with her to... love I guess, but tonight and tommorow night I'm worried that it's another step of me being replaced by this other guy. What do I do??? Thank you so much everyone.

[HopelessRomantic]

I would suggest going to these dances if that's what you'd like to do. Do it because you want to go, not because she'll be there.

As for her, you can't change her mind nor can you make her want to be with you again. I'd suggest having a talk with her and tell her that you messed up and want another chance. Maybe it'll work...maybe it won't. She will probably do nothing until she figures out if she can date this new guy.

I know it's difficult to see this but this is why it is important to be grateful for what you have when you have it, not when it's already gone.

Best of luck, hope she comes around to give you another chance.

[DevilDog]

I would suggest you ask someone else to go and have a good time.

[quiettryit]

I think those are both good suggestions, I'm just going to try and not worry about her and enjoy myself with my other friends. Thanks again