I can't Orgasm From Intercourse!

[Beehive]

My guestion is a little strange.
I`ve been with my bf for 3 years and we`ve been having sex for half a year. My problem is that i can`t orgasm from fingering nor from sex.
I`m afraid that this maybe caused by me. I`ve started masturbating a long time ago and i`ve never done this with my hand. I always put something between my legs and just move my hips. I know that this is not an ordinary way. So I`m kind of used to this and this may cause that when my bf touches my clit it hurts after a while, cos the pleasure is too intensive. I`m not sure, but is this possible? I mean... Is there any way that this kind of masturbating affects me and i can`t get an orgasm from touching in a different way? I know this is probably weird but that`s how it may be... i don`t know what to do. Thx for the replies.

[Tessa LeAnn #2]

Well I kind of had the same problem. I had been able to bring myself to orgasm via masterbation since I was a toddler (no, I'm not kidding, I started REAL young)! I thought I'd have no trouble reaching O when I finally started to have sex, since I had been so orgasmic all my life, but I was wrong. My problem was, I'd masturbated my whole life with my legs together and by soley clitoral stimulation - no penetration whatsoever. So, sex was quite a bit different. I think the thing that got me most was having to spread my legs, I definitly wasn't used to that, nor was my clit! I'd even tried to masterbate with my legs apart prior to becomming sexually active, but soon gave up as I got nothing from it.


Anyway, I've been having sex for about the same length of time you have, and I still haven't orgasmed from penetration alone (close, though), but have from oral and fingering. It just took a lot of repetitions and him "learning" me, so to speak. Now my body has adjusted to being able to get pleasure from spread legs - it just took practice, just like anything, to make it feel normal. The other thing is, I really don't care if I climax or not - I enjoy it even if I don't - and that actually helps to not be focussed on it. I have faith that eventually it'll happen during intercourse, too. Oh, and like everyone says, girl on top is by far the best as you can control the rhythm to simulate what you do when you're masturbating.

Tessa
20/f

[lana]

Ohhh ohhh ohhh! *raises hand* Alright girlies! I know that in many cases some women do not necessarily achieve orgasm from penetration whatsoever! Some women can find pleasure from penetration... some just don't. It's totally normal! And this method of masterbation is common... (errr... yes, I do it this way too... *hopes parents aren't reading*)

Ahhh and a suggestion to those who orgasm clearly only from clit stimulation... when having sex, have the man arch his body... so his penis rubs gently against the clitoris.

Or... you could use a clitoris vibrator during intercourse.

Beehive: The pleasure was too intense because your bf was directly touching it... having a layer of skin over is better...

[Barefoot Matt]

I had been able to bring myself to orgasm via masterbation since I was a toddler

:o

[kuju]

*steps up to soapbox*

Ahem!

LUBRICATION! I know waht you mean about your clit feeling sore. Mine would get like that too... generally when I was getting close, and it'd hurt and I'd have to stop which PISSED ME OFF!

water runs out too quickly, but spit lasts a short while, and commerical lube is better. GET SOME and use it on your clit when he is fingering you. your clit won't get sore, the lube will cool it off and prevcent the burning sensation, and you'll bemore likely to orgasm!

*steps down from soapbox*

[Beehive]

thx for your replies