Fingering

[screw_ball]

If any one can help me i need as much help on fingering my girlfriend as i can get. nd probably as detailed as you can get cuz i don't know anything about it. And shell let me do anything to her but will barely touch me, does anyone know what the problem could be? Thank for the people. :-? [/quote]

[PrincessInDistress]

she is really scared to death probably she does not know what to think trust me i went thru the same thing jsut talk to her about it and tell her its okay

[Tootsie Pop]

yes, I agree. Shes afraid. Just give it time. She'll start doing something soon enough. :D

[hunnybunz]

Jus be very gentle. my boyfriend had nails so that pretty much says it all...

[Lauren112285]

She's probably scared *as noted above* or just shy. Just talk to her and tell her you're cool with it and she shouldn't be afraid. Good luck! :D

[Tortuga]

Hi screw_ball,

There could be several reasons why she barely touches you. As already said, she could be scared and shy. Are you her first serious boyfriend, as in the first she's done anything sexual with? The first time can be VERY scary...*especially* if she is not your first. She may be scared that you're going to compare her to other girls and that she'll fall short. Another reason she may be scared/shy is for the same reason you are here asking about fingering. She doesn't think she knows what to do. I don't really know what you can do to make her more comfortable...my boyfriend and I were in a very similar situation. He had gone down on me before I had even touched him "down there"...even OVER his pants!! Very lop-sided, yes, but he always let me know that that was okay. I guess that's what you should do, is just let her know that it's okay if she's scared to touch you, that you'll wait as long as she needs you to. That will make her feel incredibly loved, and who knows...she may decide to go for it!

As far as fingering goes...hmm...I don't really know. Guys would probably be able to give you more helpful hints on techniques and stuff. The main thing that I'd suggest is to make sure your finger is moist. So, when you first venture down there, go to her (for lack of a better word) "hole" first, because it should be wet down there. Then, go back up and kinda rub her clitoris and around it. Sometimes go back down to her hole and insert your fingers, like your finger's having sex with her. *shrugs* I dunno. I'm not one for all this detailed how-to-do-it stuff. But I figured I'd at least give it a shot, since you hadn't gotten any other replies to that part of your question. But hopefully someone else will be able to help you out a little more.

Tortuga

[Krillin]

Good Advice, Tortuga
I have only a few things to add..

Don't EVER start by just going streight down.

First, the girl will prolly find it a turn-off, and take it as an indication that she's olny a sex-object

Be gentle. Start just kissing her, massages her, and GRADUALLY work you way down, stopping at her braests of coarse. go over her pants before in, as this will make her more comfertable as well as more horney, and more lubricated for you finger.
If's she's dry, you probaly went to fast. Slow it down a bit. Rushing Gets you noware. Good Luck to You, I hope this helped!

[Sydney123456]

Her problem? She's shy...that's it. You could help her out by guiding her every once in awhile (don't FORCE it though, cause then you are looked upon as SCARY!). She's probably not experienced.

Some tips for you...BE GENTLE. Ok...it can REALLY hurt if you aren't. And...it'll hurt for a day or two AFTER that if you are too rough!! NO NAILS, long or sharp ones anyways.

PS: Krillin, your sig...that song ROCKS!!!! So does the movie! :D

[Barefoot Matt]

Ok, first off, do like Krillin said and work up to it... once you get there, there are two options. Which one you should choose depends entirely on what kind of orgasm is stronger for her, so you'll have to figure that out for yourself.

The first option is to go for the clitoris. If you don't know where that is, go to www.afraidtoask.com and look it up. they even have an illustration. Don't go straight there, put your fingers in her vagina first, just enough to get them wet. Then go for the clitoris, and just play with it. have fun :).

The second option is to go for the G-spot. I know more about this one, cause it's the one that works better for my gf. Slowly and carefully insert your first two fingers. If it feels like they don't fit, don't force it, one will do. Immediately inside the vaginal opening, on the front side (the one closest to the belly button), there are some really wierd feeling things... They're really hard to describe, but they're soft. Go past that, and you should feel (on the same side) a flat, muscular wall, with a ridged texture suggesting lines moving from the opening inward. Push against it with your fingertips. Do it gently at first in case you're in the wrong spot, but if you've done it correctly you should be able to push fairly hard without hurting her. Push, release, repeat. Pretty simple. She should go wild at the first push. Note, while you're doing this, be careful not to hurt her with the fingers that are still outside... when trying to get as far in as possible, those extra fingers tend to dig into her thighs, which is bad. If you get her to an orgasm, you'll feel the opening of the vagina tighten around your fingers. It may do so in pulses. Keep going for a short while after she comes, but slow down, and eventually stop and pull your hand out.

All this reminds me that I need to cut my fingernails :cool3:

[Barefoot Matt]

BTW, if you need more advice on technique, an excellent place to look is www.sexuality.org