TinyTexasCowgirl
November 23rd, 2007, 07:57 PM
Hey everyone! I'm new to this and I am needing some advice. Sorry it's so long.
I am recently divorced. My X and I knew each other about 6 years before getting married, and got married at 17 and 21 (please no comments about being to young, I KNOW THAT NOW!) We knew that it was over within a year of getting married, but held on another year out of sheer stubborness, and fear of letting those hoping for us to make it down. We finally called it quits 3 days after our two year anniversary this past September.
I am by no means trying to rush things, but I met a guy, and I am having a few problems. C and I met at a horseshoeing school about a month and a half ago, after I had just moved to a new state, and town. We started hanging out, and were just an absolutly perfect fit in all aspects of what we wanted out of life, and what we want to get out of a relationship (seriously, it was like scary). I told him from the start that I was totally open to just being friends with benefits, that I wasn't looking for a relationship, but he told me that he wanted it all, or nothing. I was having severe trust issues with this new relationship, but was open with him about it, and he assured me that he wasn't "playing games" and that he was really interested in seeing where things could go. I started to trust him, and really fell hard for him, and he fell hard for me (he said this to me). We both knew that he was going to eventually have to go home, which is in another state, but he begged me to try and see where things could go, and he would come and see me every weekend (horseshoer's make really good money for those who don't know, like $500-$600 a day) and I agreed to see how things progressed. Well he has said and did so many things that told me I might could really let my guard down with him, and so I did, (to give just one of numerous examples, C came to the ranch where I live and work to help me and my boss with some young horses. When I told C thank you for helping Ron (my boss) he told me that he hadn't come to help Ron, he'd only come to help me because he wouldn't be able to live with himself if I had gotten hurt). The next day C called and told me that some major things had come up at home, (I really don't want to air his dirty laundry but yes I know what happened, and it's really not that big a deal) and he needed to take some time to take care of some things, and if I was still avaliable after he got everything straight he would love to try again. He went home a few days later, and we've talked or txt messaged every day since then. We were talking today about him coming to see me, and I jokingly told him that I guessed I was just a F*** buddy then, and he got really offended and told me that I was more than that, but he just couldn't take care of me right now, and that he loved me.
Am I getting played like a board game, or could he really be serious? What do you think?
I am recently divorced. My X and I knew each other about 6 years before getting married, and got married at 17 and 21 (please no comments about being to young, I KNOW THAT NOW!) We knew that it was over within a year of getting married, but held on another year out of sheer stubborness, and fear of letting those hoping for us to make it down. We finally called it quits 3 days after our two year anniversary this past September.
I am by no means trying to rush things, but I met a guy, and I am having a few problems. C and I met at a horseshoeing school about a month and a half ago, after I had just moved to a new state, and town. We started hanging out, and were just an absolutly perfect fit in all aspects of what we wanted out of life, and what we want to get out of a relationship (seriously, it was like scary). I told him from the start that I was totally open to just being friends with benefits, that I wasn't looking for a relationship, but he told me that he wanted it all, or nothing. I was having severe trust issues with this new relationship, but was open with him about it, and he assured me that he wasn't "playing games" and that he was really interested in seeing where things could go. I started to trust him, and really fell hard for him, and he fell hard for me (he said this to me). We both knew that he was going to eventually have to go home, which is in another state, but he begged me to try and see where things could go, and he would come and see me every weekend (horseshoer's make really good money for those who don't know, like $500-$600 a day) and I agreed to see how things progressed. Well he has said and did so many things that told me I might could really let my guard down with him, and so I did, (to give just one of numerous examples, C came to the ranch where I live and work to help me and my boss with some young horses. When I told C thank you for helping Ron (my boss) he told me that he hadn't come to help Ron, he'd only come to help me because he wouldn't be able to live with himself if I had gotten hurt). The next day C called and told me that some major things had come up at home, (I really don't want to air his dirty laundry but yes I know what happened, and it's really not that big a deal) and he needed to take some time to take care of some things, and if I was still avaliable after he got everything straight he would love to try again. He went home a few days later, and we've talked or txt messaged every day since then. We were talking today about him coming to see me, and I jokingly told him that I guessed I was just a F*** buddy then, and he got really offended and told me that I was more than that, but he just couldn't take care of me right now, and that he loved me.
Am I getting played like a board game, or could he really be serious? What do you think?