C'mon guys, let's hear some success stories!

[*after8*]

Hay hopefuls. ya know what i think? theres been FAR too many threads around here. i wanna see some of you making your dreams come true, and asking out your crushes. what's that? you're saying you're scared? its too hard? well you don't have too much longer to worry about that.... :)

heres your very own INSPIRATION thread.

people, post any advice you have which you think will inspire people, or what has inspired you in the past. and hell, if you have a cute little story about how you got the strength to ask out that certain someone, and it worked, post that here too! even if it didn't work out, but you felt so much more confident for actually doing the asking, we wanna hear about it!!

pretty much everyone who has ever posted a thread here did it because they wanted to hook up with their current crush. and yeah, i'll be the first to admit it: getting the courage sometimes is really hard.

so we're here to help ya out :)

comments, advice, stories, catchy sayings.. anything inspiring, post it here!
i wanna get something people can get so charged up reading they cant WAIT to see their crush and ask them out :)

oh and yeah.. spam in my thread, and i'll have to attack your post wif forks, and you'll never ever see it again. i promise!! *tries to look intimating* *bares teeth* hehe =)

[edit starfish: You guys read my rules... break em and DIE]

(i'm not done with my thoughts on this.. i'll post my inspiration as soon as i get home. have fun you guys :))

[one4]

just be yourself.

cuz one thing that scares me is someone seeing me for the real me and because of that not liking me. So knowing that the person accepts me for me and even better likes me for me. Then it makes it 100x easier...


so just be yourself... or somehting like that. :-?

[chiukit]

hay nyne... YOU should post sum stuff here ay...


n one4... ironic that u posted... hahah...
but newayz... jus bein urself aint always easy cose u're constantly afraid... u haftu b better... u gotta satisfy... u gotta b what ppl say u gotta b... u kno how society workz... but yea... u're rite tho... if sumone likes u for u... it makes it so much easier...


my own tipz? well for me... wif friends, at least... i start talkin ta them... and then i kinda get comfortable... then kinda physikal... like i'd touch them on the arm n stuff... or rub their back to comfort them for absolutely nothin lol... sometimez i'd even jus, for tha hell of it, bend over n kiss them on the arm... YES IM WIERD... but thatz jus me tho... n that kinda eases the tension a bit, u kno? itz like u've kissed them on some weird spot.. then u kiss them on the cheek or the hand... it wont b that hard n they wont think itz so weird... haha but thatz just me...


n i believe that flirting HAS TWO FORMS
one, theres the friendly flirting... when u're flurtin wif ur friends jus for the fun n the idea of flirin and jus how itz like... and when u're not tryin ta get anywhere really jus hafin fun
two, theres the type of flirtin when u're tryin ta get sumwhere wif the gurl, u kno?


i think that when u've started ta flirt... but jus for fun (i alwayz flurt wif gurls, even if they jus friends... like i'd give them hugz n kisses outta no where n start mackin on them lol)... when u start takin an interest u can always "switch" into flirtin ta get sumwhere... n that transition iznt so hard...


therez also when ya get close ta sumone... even tho that can work against u
when ya get close u get comfortable... and wif this "comfort zone" u could alwayz ask them out on a date... but like jus chillin n hafin fun... blah blah...


wellz i gotta start doin hmk... aiya... PK!


hey all, we should make this into a discussion ay... serious.


n sumone needs ta find fgarcia n bring him back!

[BurningMonkey]

ay yo, sum1 needz ta teech chiu heer haow ta tyype.

[Danae]

:lol: Nyne can type like a normal human being! But sadly, Chiu cant haha

Hmm this might be spam unless I reply...but *bares her own mod teeth* :P

[LnknPrkGrl]

-What I learned about relationships...from experience (not much, but I'm trying!!!) :D

I only have one success story, but it doesn't count since my boyfriend was a complete ass. To avoid this, GET TO KNOW THE PERSON. I've learned my lesson. No more asking strange people out on Hollywood Blvd or giving phone numbers to them, either. :lol:

Seriously though, you should just do it. Stop dreaming about his/her cuteness and thinking about how it would kick ass if you two hooked up. I learned this from experience, too. If you wait, he/she might end up with a significant other and you will be kicking yourself for a long time (unless you are lucky and they break up). You have a 50% chance of hooking up with your dream guy/girl. They can only say yes or no (If they say anything else that isn't "yes", it is most likely a no), and if they say no, you can move on.

If you happen to like someone that is a friend...well depending on how close you are to the person, you might not want to do it. I've freaked out many "acquaintances" by busting out with confessions of eternal love :o :lol: . If you are really close to someone, however, it should work out. Even if he/she says "no", things will go back to their natural order in a few days. When I told one of my male friends I liked him, I was mortified for a couple of days. I later realized that he was treating me the same and didn't shy away from me, so nothing changed...AND my questions were answered (BTW, he thought I was "hot", but got out of a long relationship at the time. Oh well). It's always better to know than to sit around and wonder.

It's really hard for me to tell a guy I like him. I'm really picky and at my high school, there isn't much selection. Hee hee. Anyway, I usually start hyperventilating and start sweating...not attractive at all. I've found out the best way is just to say it. No writing out what you're gonna say and memorizing it because it will make you even more nervous (i.e "Oh crap, I'm gonna tell her in 2 hours..."); just let it flow straight from the heart and tell the person as soon as you have an opportunity (that way you won't obsess too much).

Well, this is the end of "What I learned about relationships...from experience". I'm going to take my own advice tomorrow! Anyway, hope this helps a bit and that you guys don't make the same stupid mistakes I did. :mrgreen:

[chiukit]

i dont think that when you fall for a friend... that u should tell them flat out right then and there, u kno? cose from experience, it usually doeznt work out that way. u take it easy first... drop some subtle hints... try to get their attention n interest by being flirtacious... the goal is ta give them a reason y they should go out wif you before u ask them out. like, rather than them thinkin about it when u've asked them out, make them have already thot about it before u ask. things are more successful that way.


for example... my current relationship right now...
when i was feelin all shitty and gettin into heaps of crap in my life... i kept drinkin and smokin... drunk driving (livin on the edge)... flirtin... mackin... fuckin... heaps of shit... i didnt wanna b doin any of those things anymore but i cant help it, it was my onli way out of depression and insecurity...


but then i started talkin ta my friend... its wierd, really... she was just there... and for some reason i dont know... i jus slowly got out of that... like she helped me heaps... and then we became good friends and i started talkin to her... and we got close... i fell for her. but did i tell her i liked her right then? nopes... i waited... i waited MONTHS, actually... three months... around there neways... so i waited wondering... flirting charming... even bein a little manipulative... being subtle... all this time tryin ta put images into her mind... hanging out wif her heaps so that ppl would think we're goin out... actin as tho we like each other so ppl think we're goin out... or ppl think that we should b goin out...


then after so long... id jus asked her ta b wif me... and she sayd yes... cose shes already thot about it, y'know? theres more to this than i wanna say but yahs... what im jus sayin is that... tellin them strate up is the last resort when nothin else works. thats what i think, neways.

[Raptor]

sly ChiuKit, very sly :cool3: :cool3: :cool3:

[chiukit]

thank you very much. :mrgreen:


also something that i didnt mention.
when you have an "image" that you guys are together, people ask. correct? there's more to that that it seems. when people ask, they set images into her mind (or yours, but its already there hehehe), and if she's so very sure about the "friendship"... they may not be anymore. there begins the "doubts" and the "what-ifs".


when you guys seem like you like each other so much, but aren't going out... and you're telling everyone you're just "friends"... i GUARANTEE that people will tell you guys to be together. and i SWEAR, that all of a sudden... people will talk about good things in either of you.


"you should be with him! he's so cute and smart and... etc."


"you should be with her, she's cute, smart, hardworking... etc."


yes, i know im very sly. :cool3:

[~*KGirl*~]

Here's what seems to work for me.. NOT TRYING. I mean, I'll talk to people and be myself, and just not look, though some people say I flirt, but if I do I don't notice it. Though I guess since I'm taken now I wouldn't be looking..

[NightHawk]

i've thought of an icebreaker...that unclimbable wall of initial conversation.
first, you have to prepare for this. it's easy if you don't have a watch tan, but it's even easier if you don't have a watch. if you do have a watch, keep it in your pocket.

now, if someone catches your eye, check their wrists. if they have a watch, go ask them what time it is. when they reply with the time, you say something along the lines of "oh, i still have some time then" and go from there.(a good way to go after that would be introducing yourself)

good luck, and as was said before, be yourself...minus the watch...

[chiukit]

that only works for particular situations, though. and even then, the watch isn't all that, there are other things that you could say or do. plus, don't you think that if a person is following a schedule, and has no watch... would be a little suspicious?


irresponsibility: that's points off.

[NightHawk]

yes, but most teens have curfews and not everyone has watches. and of course there's other things you could say or do, there always is. i just mentioned this because it seems more casual then gonig up and just talking out of the blue, you get what i'm saying? a bit less tension at the start.

[chiukit]

wouldn't having a curfew be a turn-off, though? because to me, and most people i know, it is. but of course, it depends on the person, it always does. still, i believe that icebreakers can't be planned out, 'cause if you plan them out you're just gonna fail...

[dek]

My short taking advantage of the "newbie" story:


There was some new girl at work and I don't think she was really cute or special but I still helped her out because I'm considered the "nice" guy at work. She didn't know anybody so I made her feel welcomed around the place.

Anyhow eventually after some decent conversations and flirting behaviour, I've noticed her becoming a lot more perky, smiley, and friendly when I'm around her. So I'm guessing either she respects me more for showing her the ropes around work or is becoming more interested in me (at least on a mutual level). Definately though, this girl has been acting very positive around me and looking at her standpoint I know she doesn't have a BF. I'm not interested in her, but guess this comes out of trying to being friendly to everybody.


Hope this was "inspiring" :D

[Lone_Raider]

Me I have only 1 success story and a handful of never got off the gounds lol. I will tell you one thing, I never ever act different then I do right now or any other time. I'm just me, I say whatever I usually say and if someone doesn't like my real personality then they can leave lol. Sounds like I'm not trying maybe, but I don't feel like acting different just to draw someone in, they get the real me from day one, take it or leave :D

[player]

I had just seen Star Wars with a couple of friends and we decided to hit the bars that night.

Me and a few friends were sitting at the bar and a hot girl came and sat next to me while trying to order a drink. I decided to use the old Jed Mind Trick.

I waved my hand over her head and said," You WILL give me your phone number." She looked at me like I was crazy and said,"What?" So I repeated myself with another wave of my hand, " You WILL... give me your phone number." She sat there a moment and asked, " What are you talking about?" So I turned to my friend and said, " Ah.. but the force is strong with this one." My friends laughed and walked away embarrassed being around me.

I turned back to her and said," Sorry I just saw Star Wars." Anyway I ended up talking to her for a good hour or so. Sure enough I got her phone number that night, and went out with her a few times.

Now I wasn't really trying to make a move on this girl, I was just clowning around, but it worked. I dont know why she fell for a cheesy pick up line, because pick up lines DO NOT work. I guess she just thought it was original.

Also, it helps that I really just dont care when I approach women. I do and say pretty much whatever I feel like, and I dont worry about what people think about it. I have alot of confidence in myself, maybe even border-line cocky, and I think thats why I am successful at times.

Sometimes I get rejected though too. For many girls, if I had dropped that line I might have been slapped, or called bad names. Some may have just thought I was a lunatic. When it goes badly I dont dwell on it, it just means that person wasn't compatible with me and so in the end I have lost nothing. She knows nothing about me, therefore she can not reject me because she doesn't know what she is rejecting.

Anyway, confidence is the key to flirting.

Player

[dulcinea]

i dont think that when you fall for a friend... that u should tell them flat out right then and there, u kno?
Heh, that's what happened in my current relationship, and I think that's the REASON that it worked, cause we were actually honest with each other right from the start and when he fell for me, I knew almost immediately, and he figured out really quickly that I felt the same way despite the fact that I'm verbally incompetent. :P

Player- that's GREAT! I probably would have gone for that, because it's funny and unique and a great introduction. Good one. *thumbs up*

[chiukit]

but duls... the thing is... how are you sure that the other person likes you do? for me, i wouldnt run that risk... take lil steps to make sure first... or make her think of the possibilities and stuff like taht... you know?

[dulcinea]

I'm not saying that it works every time. Hell, usually this sort of thing doesn't work at all, from what I understand. But it worked for me. Things are just strange like that. :P

And it started small, anyways. He'd be like "You know, you really are great/funny/cute/insert positive adjective here." And then eventually, "I like you Julie," but in a way that could be construed as platonic or not. And THEN the major spilling of guts. *shrugs*

[Wrightman84]

SUCCESS!
i actually apraoched a girla nd started to talk to her, i flirted with her , then i got her number! yah!
you would think that is it... but no! we went on 2 dates [fri & sat] and i wont say much because she doesn't want me to tell anybody but ya.. there was a lot of kissing and hands going places...
I am so happy..
i'm not single any more!

[chiukit]

its weird. i think for some people, all you have to do is be who you are. for others,
it will take more than that. i mean, if you think about it, there are people who are
more prone to relationships, there are those who want them but don't have what it
takes, and there are those who just don't want them. you know? i belong in the first
category. i'm prone to relationships. and i realized, all i have to do is be who i am,
nothing fake needs to be done or anything. but that's just me, and others like me.

last thursday i got a call from a girl i met over the summer. she just called me up
and said that she's coming over. so i'm like sure, whatever. thought we'd just chill
and do nothing... watch a movie maybe. things ended up being quite... hmm, how
should i put this... fun? romantic? we got flirtacious and cuddly. but you know,
that's just me so i didnt think any of it. happens a lot ay... so *shrugs*. two days
later she tells me she likes me... moral of the story be who you are if your
true character and personality is just "there". and good luck to all!

[Wrightman84]

me, i am shy.. but for some reason, as previously mentioned.. i actually acted calm and not so shy.. and huzzah! it worked out!

[chiukit]

be spontaneous
but not too spontaneous.

heres a convo i had last thursday.

F: im hungry and i wanna go home bake cookies but i got no time take bake but im---
M: heh how 'bout we walk down to the plaza and i'll buy you some food?
F: are u serious?! *smile*
M: yep *smile*
F: hehe yay!


know ur opportunities when they're there. know what to do with those opportunities... if there are none, make them. sometimes we wait around trying to figure out the best thing to do... but most of the time [for certain people, anyway... i think]... the first thing that comes to mind is usually the best.

[chiukit]

also, ive noticed something just lately. dont take too long, you dont got all the time. and i think... the best time to work with is within a week, unless you dont see each other often. the problem with taking your time is, sure, you get to know her better, but at the same time she gets to know you -- and you might reveal things that she might not like... and you know, some things just shouldnt be told at first. know what i mean? also, the more time you take, the more chances you allow yourself to make mistakes. so, if you can, keep the time short. a week at most, from strangers to a date.

[FGarcia1]

Damn, chiu, that's great advice!!! Why'd I bother coming back?

Anyway, a success story from me: I was getting to know this somewhat shy girl from work one time, and we hit it off at first. But for whatever reason she'd try to avoid me every so often; it was really intermittent, sometimes she'd be dying to see me, others not. Anyway, we were chatting online one night and she told me she "felt like doing something," I asked her if she wanted to go get something to eat. She said "sure," and off we went, cruised downtown, then went to the beach... and that's where I'll end that story... :mrgreen:

It was a pretty natural exchange, too; it just sorta "happened." I think that's the best way to play these things out. It's too strange if you have to "ask them out."

[*after8*]

haha, well. i just got home.

i have a friend. shes 18, really shy, never had a boyfriend. didnt even get her first kiss till her 18th birthday.
shes not all that great looking either. if i were to b nice i'd call her average.

yet just recently, just two weeks ago, she asked this guy who alwayz came into her work out. and a few days ago she gave this other guy her number.

currently, shes seeing both of them, tryin to decide who she likes better.

and then theres me, and this guy i had seen around school a year ago. i thought he was dropdead gorgeous, but of COURSE he wouldn't notice me, right? after all, those guys usually dont.
a year later, however, hes smilin at me in the halls, then hes sitting in my car, and hten were in the movie theater together, and suddenly hes in my house, and we're kissing...

guys, its POSSIBLE. you never know how possible until you try.
and i' know for a fact that being rejected is the EASIEST way to get over someone.

think of it this way: you go for it now, and if it doesnt work? oh well. you dont have to waste anymore time dreamin about that grrl/guy and you can move on to someone else.
and what if it works? well then, you'll b so fucking happy.

you know your crush right now? the one you're writing about in flirting? yeah, them. that cutie :P
imagine having him. imagine having her.
imagine goin out places, with them.
imagine you're their SO.

and it's not impossible, ya just gotta b strong.
5..4..3..2..1...... before its too late.

(and im not waiting, waiting for the burning flame, no im not waiting, for anybodies burning flame.. i 'll strike my own light, and play my own game. no im not waiting, for anybodies burning flame..)

[Anthropolemic]

I've been meaning to post this for months.

I have a success story. I just relaxed and went with the flow. We clicked, recognized this...and before you know it, we've been together for over three and a half months now, and I couldn't be happier. I really wasn't looking for a girlfriend - it just kinda happened, and sometimes it's best when it comes out of nowhere, because it's just that much sweeter. If you look too hard for a girlfriend or dwell on the idea of having one, then chances are you're setting yourself up for a letdown. Say, I posted about this on the old AA once.

But yeah...it's best when it's out of nowhere. Worked for me - and if it worked for me, it can work for ANYBODY. :mrgreen:

[kewlgal99]

k im not going out with him (yet :-)) but i'll talk anyway: so the last few times i've sat reallly close to him at parties and kinda leaned my head on him but he never made a move back, and i didn't know if he was just shy or didn't like me (see my thread, lol) then the other day, we went to lotr and no one else could come... then to taco bell and a party, and we had so much fun, and he put his arm around me, it was super super cute and his heart was beating SO fast and we kept holding hands cause "my hands are cold" or "oh my hands are warm and yours are cold" and so on....yeah im happy :-)

[E=mc^2]

Mission successful.

She: Friend of two and a half years. Recently got the hot stuff for. Hooked up once before. Didn't want to ruin the friendship by popping the question.

My roommate and I had a dinner party on Friday, she came, and we had dinner etc, we all watched a movie, and then just the two of us went to a party together, and we both got feeling pretty good. Went back to her apartment and stayed the night. Also hooked up Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday.... anyway you get the point. Thanks guys. Let's just hope it works out more than it already has.

[chiukit]

speaking of petnames... dont start with something like "baby" or whatever... start with something simpler not as... revealing of your intentions? i dunno how to say it but hopefully you get my point. anyways, start with something just between the two of you. dont make it happen, just let it. say, she says something... you can pick it up from there and make it a petname. so it'll only be you calling her that because the 'history' only applies to the both of you.

heres something that happened.
at school, theres this girl and i was attracted to her for a bit. i think she was attracted to me too, but unfortunately i never made a move cos i never bothered to. anyways, we talk still, not as much as before. one time, she was saying how lazy she was and how she doesnt like to play sports. so, i called her a gramma. lol. it was funny, we both laughed. and then after that, i said i was tired and i need to sleep. she called me grampa. lol. so yeah. even now when im not attracted to her anymore i still call her that. gramma and grampa. lol. works.

anyways not sure if you get the point but yeah.

[Randomdistortion]

This is for guys and girls.
I dont want to sound self centered or anything but my present gf was apparently really surprised when she approached me at a dance a while back and we wound up dating. She told me that she would see me in the halls and just be like, "I want you." I'd seen her around and thought she was kind of cute, knew she was giving me the eye, and decided to wait and see what happened. So she came up to me at a dance, and by the end of the night we had each other's numbers. We've been going together for about 2 weeks now and it looks like we'll be in it for a while. So girls, don't be scurred; the guy you're after might just be interested in you too, even if you hardly talked to each other.

I always thought that i was going to be terminally single. Every time I chased after a girl she would want nothing to do with me or I'd be too much of a wussy to really ask her out. I figured I was just too goofy to be attractive to females. Then this female winds up in my lap ... literally ... talking about how she's attracted to intelligent geeks like me. Dude! They exist! Ph33r not!

[*after8*]

okay i'm gonna throw another one in here, cose i've really outdone myself here.

so there was two guys i was (uhh, obsessed) with.
guy number 1: mark. i didnt have any classes with him, no mutual friends, the only times i'd see him would be randomly in the hall. we werent even in the same grade.
i worked my ass off, finally found someone who kinda sorta knew him, and we hung out.. he got obsessed with me, and fi nally asked ME out.

guy number 2: matt. had a crush on him since grade 10, but then we gradded and i'd never see h im. whenever we WOULD see eachother, he'd make HARSH passes at me, totally ignoring the fact that he had a gf, and my bf was one of his friends. lol.
i finally took 'a plunge' and left a note on his car telling him to call me.
he did. we met up. and yeah.

so people, it IS possible. you just gotta take your god damn chances. *smile* (and this is dedicated to all those guys whot hink that grrls NEVER MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. *bows*)

[§ilent_GuY]

There is this girl in my english class that I've liked since the beginning of the semester. She started talking to me and said she wanted to get to know me. So soon after, we would walk to our last class together and ask each other what we are doing after school or over the weekend. After that, the conversation usually gets quiet. So this past friday, when we both said we had nothing to do over the weekend, i asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime(just like that). She then looked up at me and said the line that made my day, "yeah we should!" :D But me being so caught up in the moment, forgot to ask for her phone number. :cry:

But i do have a question. From what i've said about her, does it seem like she likes me at all?

[chiukit]

cant really tell yet.. but she definitely has an interest in knowing u better.


one of the best success stories...
is one that occurs when you just stop trying
and let it happen.

[Wrightman84]

chiu is rite here
i think that the relationships that just happen with nobody really trying are the best.. well there has to be some effort, but for the most part, one is not throwing the themselves at the other
and as for success, I really can't tell rite now, but I think I am going to be happy... time will tell

[Barefoot Matt]

Alright, you asked for it... Here's my most recent success story. I must say though, I don't recommend this for general use.

So, after warming up to my crush for some time, dropping the odd subtle hint once in a while, it came to this... one night the two of us and a couple other friends were playing around on TheSpark.com. We took the purity test, and the personality test... When you get your results back from the personality test and you see your compatibility with your friends, the site claims that the compatibility is exactly how likely you are to kiss them when drunk. Ours was 89%. The next day, there was a big party, an annual type of thing, with free beer and hot dogs (heaven? lol). I got somewhat smashed, so I decided it would be prudent to live up to TheSpark.com's predictions... I gave her a big kiss on the cheek. That afternoon, she asked me out on a double date, and that, my friends, was the point of no return.

I don't know if it's inspiring, but hey, it worked for me! :lol: Cheers, flirters, and good luck 8)

[The Unknown Songwriter]

That girl that I posted about here a week or so ago, as I FINALY MET A GIRL!! not only went out with me last night but she also tried to kiss me.(tried but sadly i got confused and we ended up hugging read all about it in the kissing forum)
TUSW

[Cashew]

Ahh... with my current S.O. much flirting was required to move us from friends to "FRIENDS." The cute part of my personality emerged from the shadows whenever he was around, and I flirted like made. The guy manipulated me into asking him out on a date and things went from there.

[sketch]

I picked up a tall cute blonde with a pierced nipple from a Bus Stop. 8)

(never mind the fact she started dating her best friend seriously a few days later, before I got a chance to know her better - D'oh)

[*after8*]

Originally posted by sketch@Jun 26 2003, 04:22 AM
I picked up a tall cute blonde with a pierced nipple from a Bus Stop. 8)

(never mind the fact she started dating her best friend seriously a few days later, before I got a chance to know her better - D'oh)
you had to throw in the "ONE pierced nipple" bit JUST to bug me, didn't you!?

:(

[*after8*]

Originally posted by sketch@Jun 26 2003, 04:22 AM
I picked up a tall cute blonde with a pierced nipple from a Bus Stop. 8)

(never mind the fact she started dating her best friend seriously a few days later, before I got a chance to know her better - D'oh)
you had to throw in the "ONE pierced nipple" bit JUST to bug me, didn't you!?

:(

[bitshifter]

see here for backstory:

http://therfs.com//index.php?act=ST&f=1&t=14359

We've been on a few dates, and I think everything is going quite well-- I really like her, I'm not sure how she feels (we really havn't talked about the state of our relationship at all yet), but I'm hoping everything works out for the best, she's incredible.

It was really hard to ask her out, but the fact of the matter is, getting turned down is nothing in comparison to the sum of all the regret you would feel from not asking her out. See my post if you don't believe me! (I got turned down, then it all worked out)

[chiukit]

know what's funny...
i think that it's much more effective if you are obvious about your intentions. not hiding away, liking her and not doing anything.

i met a girl this year... and when we were talking once i just said...
" i know we're getting to be friends.. but im also interested in you and it'd be great if we can go out. "
at first, she said no... oh well, right? but we stuck to being friends because we got that out of the way.
and now... we're like going to montreal for the winter maybe... and if we are... we're gonna see what can happen.

this reminds me of kate and leopold... lol

[tidelwave]

jus had a success story. my friends knew i was rly into her and suspected she was into me so left us alone in a room and i asked her out and she said yes woot! this jus happened yesterday so les watll happen :)

[thingy]

looks like its been a while since anyone has replied to this thread but..

about 3 months ago, i met this girl and at first, i just thought she was another one of those pretty girls and like most other guys i was attracted and drawn to talk to her. The first time we met i didn't ask for contacts because i felt that i only liked her because she looked good but when she left i felt that i really missed out and found out she went to my church, and the following sunday, surprisingly she asked for my phone number and we began talking on the phone more and more.

we hung out a few times, but as i got to know her, i found out that there were alot of guys going after her, alot of these guys were 2 years older than me, who could drive and what not and i found out that she was interested in another guy. so i decided to just hang tight because i didn't want to throw away the friendship that we had. by now i was feeling pretty low, one of the finest girls i had no chance with, and i tried to move on, going out more to try to find a new girl and get her off my mind, but it was impossible. so i decided that maybe it was better that i stopped talking to her as much.

and then about a month and a half ago she began calling me asking me why i didn't call her and of course i just made up some excuse. but this time it was different we began talking on the phone every night from 10pm - 3am, at one time we talked for 6 hours and i had to hang up because both my phones ran out of batteries. this went on for about 2 weeks before i had to tell her how i truly felt, and although i was afraid that i had waited too long to tell her, i knew it was the only way. so the next time we met up i told her how i felt and now we're a couple.

we've been going out for a month, and i feel like the luckiest guy alive. and although this is probably the most overused saying, but to all those guys, just be yourself, theres nothing harder yet in the end its gotta be you who wins the girl.

[wowzers]

Ok, I'm not trying to be cheeky or give bad advice, but I learned something. People are going to disagree with me, perhaps even get mad about my post, sure, but this is what I've found to work. And if you disagree with it on the basis of morals or just because you think it's dumb, that's fine - the old me would have also disagreed.

But, here's the way I've found to work.

Get a lil tipsy, especially if you're the shy or closed-off type. I was, with guys anyway. Or I was loud and obnoxious (when sober) with friends which tended to not attract the right kind of attention.

When I drink a lil, though, I get flirty. I get smiley. I just become more girly. I laugh in that girly way. But the biggest thing is that I flirt. And when I'm sober I need to plan out every move, every word that I am going to say to the guy I'm interested in. When I'm not so sober, but not drunk, it flows easily.

At first I couldn't figure out why so many guys in Bangkok and Germany were interested in me, and none seemed to be in the US. I don't drink here in the US because it just isn't the social-scene of my high school group. That's no problem for me, apart from that I've realized that I suck with interacting with guys I like when I am sober. In a few months we hit up the college scene, so we'll see how that goes.

[HurleyGirlie]

I do have a success story...

I met my boy through an instructor at our college...later did I find out that the instructor was a total matchmaker always looking to hook people up. My boy and I make sure to stop by and see him every chance we get.

So my advice is to just totally be yourself because that is the only way to truly learn and grow together.

[Jonny]

this was really spontaneus but i had my eye on this girl called 'apula) mu current girlfriend and i recently moved to my dad's house a week before, she lives 5 minutes aay, so my chance was offered on a plate i just walked past her at school outside my class at the end and said 'hey you live near my dad, what bus d'ya catch on the way home?' then i waited for either a slap, a 'who the hell are you' look or hat i really got, she said "catch the 932, ill be on with my mate you should see me"

so i did and we started talking (KEEP IN MIND I'VE NEVER SPOKEN TO HER BEFORE!" and a eek later on the bus she said she was goin to a club ith some mates getin pissed and she asked me to go, so i did, then the following day i was playing in my band and she came to watch, on a break i just simply asked her out
(it was obvious her answer, but thats another story) and i went all red and in a childish response cxould only say 'oh cool ' and walked back in, really lame, but e hugged and kised on the night and everything seems so good...both parents like us...and my mum teaches paula's friends at school in child development!

but everyone is OK, and no grudges, no regrets...
and tbh this girl is the first person i dont feel shy around...as thought it as 'meant to be'

and lemme tell ya, no i dont believe in lvoe at first sight, but its only been 7 eeks (7 weeks today actually) and i know i love her...

if it's meant to be, it's not hard, if you find it SOOO difficult to ask someone out...then i think it just isn't meant to be...but thats just my opinion...anyone think different? and what ya think of my story? :redface:

[RnC]

oh man, i dont have a crush anymore ! ... in another words, i dun think im attracted to anyone in particular anymore...

is it sad?...

[Jonny]

no of course not, i think everyone's had a few of those phases

[cdude]

no one has posted a story for a while, so I guess i will.

For many years I was single, always lookin for that special girl I would eventually call my gf. Throughout my college years I would hit on and talk to girls. Year after year of meeting dozens of girls, I thought I would never meet one that was willing and compatible with me. I kept right on, sticking to the strategy which was 'meet as many girls as possible to find a match'. I would scan every classroom for good looking girls and talk to them one by one. For a while, I had almost given up hope.

Eventually, one day, I met an attractive girl with a great smile. Usually thats what draws me in, is the smile, as it indicates a friendly personality. I put my arm on the wall in that 'hello, how ya doin posture' and started talking to her. From the start we had good chemistry; we both got a 'good' feeling from each other. That same day I asked her out to the library, we showed each other some pictures. Two days later I saw her in the lounge, she was sitting in one of those comfy chairs. I sat down right next her and put my arm around her; she reciprocated and got a little closer too. Things continued to advance from there. This was approximatly 9 months ago.

I can say, this is a success story, I succeeded in getting a beautiful girlfriend, that was my goal.
Our relationship has been very passionate at times, we have had many ups and downs but I can say that it started off great. Who knows where it will go. There's no guarantee of anything. It may end or it may continue, sometimes things can be a bit uncertain.

[NightHawk]

well, not a real success tory yet, but i thoguht it was pretty funny.

anyhow, my friends and i were hanging out on 8th street last night. (the cruising strip for saskatoon) and this car pulls into the parking lot with two incredibly attractive (to say the least) girls in it. he driver looked familiar to me, and my (female) friend and were playfully arguing over who gets the driver while she went and talked to her friends about 20 feet away. then she noticed me, said "Hey peter!" and smiled at me and all that. needless to say, my female friend was disappointed. but her friend was also incredibly attractive too. anyhow, they came to talk to me and my friends for a minute, where the friend of the driver told us of how her asshole boyfriend had kicked her out of a wedding she was in, which was why she was dressed to kill and on 8th stret. (V cut red dress that came down to her knees and 5 inch clear heels. *drool*) so, me being the flirt that i am i said that she should give me a call sometime, at which time the driver (whom i'd recognized to be a friend of an ex girlfriend of mine) said she could get the passenger my contact information.

...ok, so it's not actually a success story yet, but i thought it was pretty cool.