Feeling attracted to my friend's girl

[Walker75]

A friend from work met this beautiful woman at a party some months ago, they seemed to get along very well that day, you know, talking and dancing together (great dancer by the way) having some drinks and so on, so he asked for her number and she gave it to him, my friend called her some days later and both agreed to go on a date together. (I believe you know the drill). After their going out together, he will not stop talking about her, kept telling everybody at work how beautiful and great she was. Well, the first thing that draws your attention about her is that she’s not American but Latin American, Colombian actually. She moved to the States about 6 months ago due to her studies. Anyway, they’ve been going out together for a month and a half already, but only as friends, he hasn’t made any move yet, even though he claims he likes her a lot.
Over the past days, I realized that I’m beginning to feel attracted to her too, but who wouldn’t? I mean, 5’ 7”, beautiful brown skin, awesome body, long black hair, black eyes…stunning, if you’ve seen Colombian women, you will have to agree with me.
During this time, I have had the chance to talk to her, when going out with her friends and mine, and noticed that she really is all of the things my friend says she is… smart, sincere, and fun. That’s why the attraction. So far, I ‘m not a 100% sure about the way she feels about him, but I believe that she just sees him only as a friend, I could be wrong though. You never know when it comes to women, but what if I’m right? This would give me an opportunity, but I know inside that it wouldn’t be fair to do that to him besides, I know the guy for 3 years and he’s a really good person, I would hate to be in the awkward position of choosing between his friendship and her…. OK maybe I am overacting a little, there’s the chance the she might not want anything to do with me either, the thing is that I’ve never been in this kind of situation before, that’s why I don’t know how to deal with it.
That said, what do you think I should do? Talk to him about my feelings towards her or wait around and see how things unfold between the two of them, what if things don’t work out, should I start thinking about making a move only then?

Any advice.
Thanks

[kuju]

let go of it. He is your friend of THREE YEARS. Don't talk to him about it, and don't talk to her about it. Try to meet and date other girls. Unless your friend, of his own accord, stops seeing this girl (even if he hasn't made his move, he clearly likes her) or he starts dating someone else, then don't do anything and just let it drop.

[Fekete]

I'll probably be an asshole for saying this, but, if he hasn't made a move yet, that's his own fault. She's available, and you have a chance.

People aren't objects, you can't "claim" them. If you have feelings for a person, either do something about it, or shut up.

[automorphism]

Wait until you know your friend isn't interested. Talk to your friend casually about her and you'll probably get a pretty good idea about his intentions.

People aren't objects, but not making a move is to respect the feelings of your friend, and not because he might have "claimed" her.

[Fekete]

People aren't objects, but not making a move is to respect the feelings of your friend, and not because he might have "claimed" her.

Yeah, I'll agree with you there. That would seem like the 'honourable' thing to do. Until someone else comes and takes her away.

[Luan]

If your friend hasn't made a move or hasn't told you that he was interested in her, you should start to be making moves. If your friend has though, talk to him and see if you guys can work something out. You've known him for 3 years, this would be out of respect for him and of your friendship.

[FrankR]

Unless he says go for it, don't be a dick! I have had that happen to me before and it DOES NOT go well for the friendship. If you have to ask if its ok, you already know it isnt.

[moonangel]

Talk to your friend. Find out exactly where he stands with her, before you do anything.

If you do pursue anything with this girl, you must be 100% sure that there is no chance of anything developing between her and your friend. Otherwise it is just not worth the damage it may cause to your friendship.

[111222333]

it may be that this is none of business, but if you don't bring it out in the open then the whole forbidden fruit element comes about and the tension will just start mounting until your burried under it, at which point somethings got to give... and it will probably be your friendship. I say talk to him like a friend. I mean, at the risk of sounding like a total geek, does anyone remember what happened with joey and chandler when kathy came along?

[MarkHix]

My dad went to Colombia in November last year and said he had a blast. He got divorced from mom about 3 years ago and had a hard time bouncing back from that tough time, in fact, we all did and ever since then, he wanted to meet a fine woman to spend some quality time and eventually start a new relationship, so he decided to take his chances and took a tour to Colombia. Did he find her?? That lucky old man, yeah he did. Awesome girl!

I know you’re probably very into this girl, but it seems to me that your friend is ahead of you, keep in mind that you can still play your cards and do something about it, but I don’t think you’d like to ruin your friendship over her. Well the ball’s n your court.

If things turn out unfavorable for you, but you’re still interested in Colombian women, here’s the site from the agency my dad took the tour (loveme.com)
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Good luck pal!!