Tips on Attracting Women While Clubbing?

[Planet Roberts]

Hi,
Anyone got any tips/approaches or lines a guy could use to attract a Woman while clubbing?
I need some much needed help and advice in these sort of situations :werd:

[AlphaMale]

the first tip is meeting women in bars/clubs is a waste of time...

[Rammstein39]

Honestly, I stopped going to clubs b/c i was sick of becoming "prey." I dont suggest doing that at all, but thats just me. With that said I know some people who have met SO's thru clubbing, but I feel like its just so hard and may come off as desperate or trashy.

[JHXMT]

Don't buy anybody a drink (unless they're buying yours).

Seriously. For the love of all that is holy. It's a trap. Run.

[chiukit]

lol.. if you want to pick up someone at a club..

you better:
be honestly good looking..
know how to dress.. but not overdress
you better know how to move on the floor...

other than that
yes i agree.. its a waste of time..
unless youre going for a one-night-stand.. eh..

[AlphaMale]

lol.. if you want to pick up someone at a club..

you better:
be honestly good looking..
know how to dress.. but not overdress
you better know how to move on the floor...

other than that
yes i agree.. its a waste of time..
unless youre going for a one-night-stand.. eh..
what if one is f-ugly but has lots of drugs? :laugh:

[kuju]

guys, he jsut asked how to ATTRACT someone... not mate with them for life.

my number one rule is (aside from not being butt ugly) is to dress well and know how to dance without grinding your dick into my butt. Also, don't be wearing the same shirt as a nother person there (which is, admittedly, hard to know beforehand). Once I was in a club in a small town and like, FIVE GUYS were wearing the same shirt... because there are so few shops. It was kind of funny.

[AlphaMale]

Once I was in a club in a small town and like, FIVE GUYS were wearing the same shirt... because there are so few shops. It was kind of funny.
was it a plain white button-down? jesus christ that is rediculous advice because all these 23 years old men looks the same, messy hair with jeans and a shirt with vertical strips.

[kuju]

dressing well doesn't mean that you can't dress a little different. You want to stand out from the crowd a little, just not to the point where people look at you and go "wtf"?

[chiukit]

what if one is f-ugly but has lots of drugs? :laugh:
if youre fugly but have a lot of drugs and a woman sleeps with you...
shes not sleeping with you cos of you... but cos of the drugs...

man where's your wisdom now, lol

[AlphaMale]

if youre fugly but have a lot of drugs and a woman sleeps with you...
shes not sleeping with you cos of you... but cos of the drugs...

man where's your wisdom now, lol
the impt part is the "sleeping together"....not why

[JHXMT]

the impt part is the "sleeping together"....not why

Jeez, for somebody who claims to be an alpha male you sure appear to have low standards.

In clubs, be popular. Go with friends (even if you don't necessarily spend most of the evening/night with them, it gives you a group to circulate with when you need to). Don't hang out at the side of the dance floor with all the other desperate, single guys - everybody knows what the score is with those guys.

Mingle. Have fun without needing to meet somebody.

Actually, that last tip works for attracting people in just about any situation. :tongue:

[AlphaMale]

Jeez, for somebody who claims to be an alpha male you sure appear to have low standards.
so wanting to have sex means you have low standards?


In clubs, be popular. Go with friends (even if you don't necessarily spend most of the evening/night with them, it gives you a group to circulate with when you need to). Don't hang out at the side of the dance floor with all the other desperate, single guys - everybody knows what the score is with those guys.

Mingle. Have fun without needing to meet somebody.

Actually, that last tip works for attracting people in just about any situation. :tongue:
you forgot about drinking alcohol....thats the main activity that goes on in clubs and bars.

[JHXMT]

so wanting to have sex means you have low standards?

No, but wanting to have sex regardless of the reasons for it does.

If you settle for having sex simply because somebody is willing (due to drugs, money, status, whatever), it effectively says you can't be bothered/don't believe you are able to attract somebody on your own merits. Basically, you're paying for sex, when anybody who claims to be 'alpha' in the fashion that you espouse should surely be able to have their pick of the litter, so to speak.

you forgot about drinking alcohol....thats the main activity that goes on in clubs and bars.

If that's what floats your boat, feel free. I've had good times in clubs both with and without alcohol.

[preedee]

Pulling in a club is the easiest thing in the world. Seriously. It's all about eye contact. Pick a girl you like, and make eye contact with her. Don't stare, but hold it for a second or two - more than a glance, less than a stare - if she returns it, then cool. Make your way across the floor - gradually ease your way over, making sure you still meet each others eyes while you're doing so. Best thing is at any time you can just head to the bar if you think you're on the wrong track. It's all about confidence, really - have enough balls to make a move and it's plain sailing.

If all is going to plan, by the time you reach her, she'll turn to dance with you - that or just tell her hi, ask her name, compliment her, something like that, and go from there.

If you DO end up kissing and she goes back to dancing with her friends, give her space to do so! Honestly, it's the most annoying thing in the world to attract a guy and then have him hanging like a burr on my arm for the rest of the night when I'm there primarily to have fun with my mates. Go buy her a drink. Go buy yourself a drink, dance with your friends, whatever. Just don't hang off her - she'll just get annoyed.

I go for guys who are having fun, who're good looking with a sense of style - it is, after all, all about first impression. And I don't look at the walls, I look around on the dancefloor for attractive men - I'm not going to go for a wallflower.

I've pulled in clubs, it's easy as anything, but I'm not expecting anything out of them - just one night of fun, generally. Good luck - go with a big group of mates, and if you pull, then so much the better.

[AlphaMale]

If you settle for having sex simply because somebody is willing (due to drugs, money, status, whatever), it effectively says you can't be bothered/don't believe you are able to attract somebody on your own merits.
the drugs, money, personlity, status, power, looks, whatever ARE your merits....

[JHXMT]

Personality is one of your merits. Material items like money and drugs are not merits. The others fall inbetween.

That may well just be my viewpoint. To my mind, however, somebody who wants to have sex with you purely because of the money/drugs/material wealth you can bring to them is not worth having sex with. *shrugs*

[AlphaMale]

Personality is one of your merits. Material items like money and drugs are not merits. The others fall inbetween.
It really depends on whom is making the decision is it not? ONe person's merit may be another's demerit.

To my mind, however, somebody who wants to have sex with you purely because of the money/drugs/material wealth you can bring to them is not worth having sex with. *shrugs*
jesus christ its just sex....you're not getting married or anything. Women have sex with certain dudes just cause they got a big cock.

[WWIU]

jesus christ its just sex....you're not getting married or anything. Women have sex with certain dudes just cause they got a big cock.

:laugh: That or a guy with a nice long talented tongue!

[dtbmnec]

Don't act like a sleaze ball....

I had some guy try to feel me up on the dance floor a few times when I quite forcefully MOVED HIS HAND away from certain areas....he still had a case of "wandering hands" so I stopped dancing with him.

There's a difference between dancing and dancing while trying to feel her up. If she just wants to dance then just damn well dance! If she's moving your hand TO certain spots then by all means...

Megan

[Crash Override]

Picking up a girl at a club is the same as picking up a girl anywhere: brothel, church, pub, library, whatever, it's all the same.

You just have to look confident and act like you're having a good time. There are no hard and fast rules, because women pretty much have no fucking clue what they want, so if you put in all kinds of effort to "dress well" or "be sweet and caring" or whatever other namby-pamby bullshit women say they like but really don't, you'll end up wondering where you went wrong.
You don't have to dress 'well,' you just have to dress appropriately - wear clothing that you look comfortable in, and that flatters your features. For example, if you're skinny, don't wear excessively baggy clothing, etc.

A girl above mentioned eye contact. This is basically your best bet at gauging interest - if she returns your eye contact, go up to her, spend no longer than ten minutes, maximum, with her, then return to the safety of your friends. Over the course of the evening, if it seems like she's gravitating toward your general direction, you have a winner.

Keep in mind, girls don't go clubbing because they "love to dance," they go clubbing because they like attention. If you give them that attention without making them work for it, then you are nothing to them - just another nameless, faceless member of the horde giving them exactly what they came for.

People only notice things when they violate expectations - use that to your advantage.

[AlphaMale]

superb advice CO.....the guy who does the total opposite of what most men are doing is the one who scores.

[AllHailTheThief]

Indeed.

I also have to disagree with the fact that you really have to dance, or be exceptionally attractive.

There's plenty of mediocre women at any club/bar. If you're going out with the sole purpose of picking up supermodels well...god be with you.

[AlphaMale]

If you're going out with the sole purpose of picking up supermodels well...god be with you.
I don't think there are gonna be any supermodels at the clubs he's going to...trust me.

[Gezus]

I think there was something in Hitch where he did something that really made him stand out at a club. Unfortunately, the guy who mentioned this didn't say what. Suckass.