do you care if your partner dances with other people?

[Jennifer]

Alright, I wanted to know how much freedom you guys would give to your partner. Saying so, I mean... would you allow them to dance with other people in a club or flirt and so and so?

For myself, I didn't think that I actually cared. But this halloween while we went to diffferent places to party. I refused to dance with like 10 guys and then I found out that he danced with anybody who approached him... :( I think I was more pissed becasue he was telling me about it openly without considering how I would feel.

Anyways, he doesn't like the idea of other guys dancing with me... but tough luck, I'm going to do just that :D

[ScruffysGirl]

First of all be glad that he was honest and told you he was dancing with other girls, instead of lying to you. Not that theres anything wrong with him doing it. It all depends on what you two decide is ok in your relationship. Talk about it and decide what is allowed and what isn't. He thought it was and you didn't, so you need to get on the same page. Going out and dancing with a bunch of guys to make him jealous or mad won't help. You didn't like him dancing with other girls and you say he doesn't want you dancing with other guys so why not just save the dancing for only with each other?

[kuju]

well, he's clearly got a double standard about this... he can dance with other girls, but you can't dance with other guys? meh.

either dance with each other, or dance with other people as well and accept that you're both allowed to do that. Just don't... GRIND with other people, ya know?

[HarmonyOfApathy]

Yeah, I'm with kuju here. Depends on the kind of dancing... if it's grinding and shit, I'd be kinda pissed. Ugh.. it'd be my senior prom all over again lol.

[dtbmnec]

boyfriend doesnt' care if I dance with other guys....lol of course the only club I go to is a gay/bi/lesbian club....so that could be the reason right there....

Megan

[Deidre]

Well, I'd be incredibly surprised and start wondering about him if he danced at all by his own free will. :D Especially at a club or such; I can just about get him to do a few waltzy steps with me on the kitchen floor.

If he enjoyed dancing, I definitely wouldn't mind if he danced with other women. There'd have to be something else involved before I'd mind (like grinding, or standing me up/refusing me to dance with others &c).

[Nonny]

LOL Deidre. My male's much the same way. *mutter*

Personally, I couldn't care less if he decided he wanted to dance with someone else. Just so long as he's not telling me I can't do the same (which, well, with him, isn't happening, considering the dude has told me I could pick someone up at a club and he wouldn't care :razz:). Then again, we have a mostly open relationshp, and I really wouldn't mind if he wanted to sleep with someone else, so long as I knew about it ahead of time and didn't hate the person in question. *shrugs*

[Jennifer]

Anyways, I've given it some thought and I think I'll just let him off on this one. If he ever goes dancing again, I'll just let him know that I am uncomfortable with him dancing too intimately with other girls. I'm not sure if he grinded with that girl or not but then again, every guy I know ONLY knows how to grind...lol.


LOL Deidre. My male's much the same way. *mutter*

Then again, we have a mostly open relationshp, and I really wouldn't mind if he wanted to sleep with someone else, so long as I knew about it ahead of time and didn't hate the person in question. *shrugs*

:eek: are you serious Nonny?????!!!!!

[Deidre]

:eek: are you serious Nonny?????!!!!!
Welcome to the wonderful world of diversity.

[mini696]

Dance... yes.
Flirt... No.
So and so... Depends what this entails.

Its not like I could say no to my GF (if I had one) anyway. Its her choice.

[Nonny]

:eek: are you serious Nonny?????!!!!!

Yup. :)

[SoSweetAngel]

I dunno.... like you, I'd like to think that i wouldn't mind, but it probably would bother me. Only cos if I'm in a club and a guy starts "dancing" with me, sooner or later he'll start grinding, which is a no-no in my book. So me thinks that (as deidre said) unless he really liked dancing in clubs (which he doesn't) then I'd be a bit... hmmm... about it.

If I were you, I'd be a lot more worried if he'd lied to you about it. Perhaps it might be worth mentioning that it makes you feel uncomfortable...