how far should it go?

[silly_willy]

i been working part time with this girl for a few months. we've always got on well and i really like her.. i cant say we know each other that well, because it's only through working that i see her.

i know its sad but looking at the star sign compatibility it does seem true. gemini/leo......


this girl is a few years younger than me and not your typical trophy girl. BUT... i really like her at least as a friend..

on the weekend we all went to a club, and this girl and I ended up kissing. for quite a few hours apparently. i was highly intoxicated. i do remember how good it felt... and ive been in contact with her since, arranging to see her again.


im concerned, as she obviously likes me (according to her friends, and by the way she acts...).... but i only got out a long relationship this year, and am not keen to end up "back in the groove"..... i really do enjoy being single.


i think im scared of getting hurt, but im also worried about hurting this girl. but i do feel there is some chemistry.

im only after opinions, as by all means i will do what i do anyway... but like to get some rounded discussion.....


i can imagine us hanging out and i feel really comfortable with her. we make each other laugh, and shes a really good kisser lol....... now would obviously be the right time to call it off, if im certain things shouldnt go any further... but how far should things go?

[Margie Mayer]

You've gone far enough that it's time to be honest with her. She'll appreciate your honesty and will spread the word that you're a good guy. She may want to continue to see you and you may begin to trust again & take risks of being in a relationship again. If she says good-by, you're still a good guy. And, eventually, you'll be ready for another relationship.
Margie Mayer, LCSW

[dtbmnec]

I'd say the same thing as Margie...

All you did was kiss her...no harm no foul...any much more and it could be considered as "leading her on"...(of course the super anal would say you already have but meh)...I'd say break it off...tell her that you are interested but not ready for a relationship (as you just broke up) and that you don't want to hurt her feelings by giving her "your body" but nothing else...if she really really does like you then yeah she'll be a little hurt (lol last I checked we were human right?) but she'll get over it :)

Megan

[silly_willy]

cheers people.

i only signed up here to talk about this situation! i can't tell people i know that i like her, probably because this might leave me exposed. friends tell me she likes me, i just lock up.

i get butterflies, aint felt like this for a few years. i want to stop before things get deeper, but shes asked to see me outside of work and i've agreed already! im an idiot.


sleeping around had previously seemed desirable, but i think looking at it deeper - this is because i would not have to open up and can walk away with getting hurt. obviously thats wrong for the other person, but if you never get to know them that well - it doesn't really affect you... only problem is i dont really want to hurt anyone.

when i think about other girls ive been in contact with recently, one for instance is begging me to go round her house offering me a bed for the night. i have to think how i will handle her emotionally just so i can get a fuck out of it and be able to walk away. i dont feel like that with this other girl, i only really picturing us kissing and wanting to give her a big hug!

damn........ i feel like a proper pussy.