How did I put up With This?

[Soulfull_ Angel]

Ok i went out with this guy for a little over 9 months. I loved him and so forth but I don't understand why. He was the most deranged person I have ever met and he had very sick fantasies. Some are as follows. is a bi sexual. When he was about 7 him and his male cousin had sex. Now when he first told me about this he told me he was raped but as the relationship went on he confided in me and asked me if I though it was gross that he actually didn't consider it rape and that back then he though it was all fun and games and didn't consider it wrong and as he looks back on it now he actually enjoyed it. He also asked me if I'd stick carrots up him ass as he use to do it a lot only sometimes it was with a comb handle. He sometimes looks at male porn and some of that is actually gay porn. He also likes to swallow his own sperm. He has this trick where he lays down and swings his leg over his head and masturbates so he can swallow it. He has had a crush on one of his male friends Josh. He also once asked if I would mind if he bought a dilo for himself. He Has also worn one of my G strings I left at his house and after I found out he wore it I let him keep it and untill our last big break up he continued to wear it in his own spare time. He also asked me once if I thought it would be weird if he wore a ladies corsette. He continued to buy mens g strings after we broke up. He also use to tell me about his gay fantasies. This is just the beginning but my hands are getting kinda tired. See I don't get how I put up with this guy. He didn't treat me well he even left me for a fat bisexual girl with a mostache whom was suppose to be a friend of mine, and I stupidly took him back after he abused my family abused me and my credibility went behind my back and told all my friends that I had said nasty stuff about them behind their backs when I hadn't, told me I couldn't be friends with any males and told me about him looking at other women naked. He even put poems about me on the internet saying I was a whore and all this continued for a month. I mean the guy was a complete weirdo and he was a nasty cruel person. Am I complete fool for putting up with abuse and his sick fantasies and how the hell does someone love someone so cruel?

[waiting_on_an_angel]

I know how you feel. You were with the person and completely infatuated with them, thinking they were wonderful, when in reality they were psycho and treated you like crap. The something happens you break up and its like, what the hell was I thinking. You start to reflect over the relationship and realize you should have gotten out a long time ago. Why didn't you? Well, there are different reasons people stay in the wrong relationship. More than likely, you stayed because this guy offered you "love" and stability. Basically you were scared. Its much easier to stay in a relationship you are familiar with then to break it off and start anew. You ignored the other problems until a new problem came along that you couldn't ignore. Just be thankful you are out of the relationship and remember this lesson for your next relationship. You deserve to be happy all the time. If a guy continually makes you unhappy, end it.

[sft2hrdtco]

Damn girl I feel bad for you. Not really but this is how I see it. After the first few "extreme" fantasies and weird encounters you had with this guy, you should've left him if you felt uncomfortable. A healthy relationship, is one in which both parties are comfortable and enjoy the company of the other. In this case, I'm guessing you didn't enjoy his 'sick' mind and I also can bet you didn't feel comfortable around him after he told you some stories about himself. All I have to say is, stay away from him!

[Soulfull_ Angel]

Thanks guys. I guess I'm just angery at myself for not seeing this guy was a complete psycho. I let someone with no morals and scroupals drag me down and make me feel like I wasn't worth anything. I know he was megga strange and stuff but for some odd reason I was really in love. I guess it was so hard for me to break away because it was the first guy I had ever loved and the first guy that never really loved me back and accepted me. He always made me feel like I wasn't good enough and I know that was wrong. Obviously my love was a very blind one however this feeling i really couldn't controll. If I could have just turned it off I would have and it wouldn't have taken me so long to realise this guys a jerk. The other guys I dated before him were usually really nice and one of them would have done anything I asked of them but I never fell in love with any of the previous guys. It happened to be the biggest jerk in the world I had to fall in love with. I guess I'm also mad at myself for not ending it. He did and once again made me feel like crap. No one deserves to be treated the way he treated me and now I realise. Just wish I had a lot sooner. Would have prevented my nervous break down and the loss of a month of the most important stage of high school. Thanks for your imput guys

[FireFly]

Fucking lying bitch.

WTF is wrong with you? Going around and saying this shit about me, don't be upset that I'm moving on with my life and your not going anywhere because MOST people know what kind of fucking hypocritical bitch you really are.

Your a fucking sick bitch.

[Hatlicks18]

Ok that story was somewhat unusual. If your for real, Im sorry but why bother thinking about this guy, he clearly has his problems. Good lord he has some issues.

Brian

[BigJim]

locking this one too...

we're getting a handle on these two users, before making any mod calls.

[Palmer of the Turks]

Ummm... there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with anything you described.

They are all fairly comoon, harmless, normal behaviours.

Your problem is being conditioned against such things.

[BigJim]

true. cross dressing, homosexual acts and other stuff is not wrong per se.

He's Fucked UP cuz he's bi and has homosexual fantasies?

Dude, close minded people make me sick... You present it as if he's some freak of nature. That sort of attitude is exactly what makes our society so homophobic. Thanks for the enlightening and thoughtful contribution to society. :roll:

Oh, and soulful would be ONE 'l' at the end, not two.