Question for the ladies...

[oceanlake]

Question for the ladies out there... especially those who have been in a similar situation.

I've liked this girl for almost a couple years now. We are friends, though she is now going to school a few hours away from here so we only see each other every couple months or so, but we keep in touch through phone, IM, etc.

Anyway, over the past couple months she has been giving a lot of signals that she now likes me... more frequent phone calls just to talk, more frequent IMs, laughing a lot when with me, flirting... well you get the point.

I like the girl. I don't want her to think all these things go unnoticed. Despite the distance apart, I still want a relationship with her. But for some reason (maybe because I've been friends with her for a couple years) I'm having a hard time picturing how the whole "I really like you.... how about a relationship?" thing should go down. Does it cheapen it (since we've been friends for awhile) to just bring it up casually in conversation like its just a random thought? Or is it just the fact I ask that matters?
Should I ask her to come out for drinks cause I want to talk (she would know something is up) and make the circumstances a little more serious? Or is that making it more complicated than it has to be?

[Rammstein39]

My friend did sorta the same thing. She and this guy were friends for a while and they hung out a lot. Finally he invited her to go on a trip with him and it was then that he told her he liked her and she agreed to start seeing him. Might be something to try sometime.... get her to go somewhere with you where you two can be alone and just see how she feels about it.

[kuju]

Here: the next time you see each other just suddenly say, "You know, I really like you. how about a real date?"

as I always say, simplicity and forthrightness is best.

[oceanlake]

cool... i'll keep it short and sweet then

[Juan]

Here: the next time you see each other just suddenly say, "You know, I really like you. how about a real date?"

as I always say, simplicity and forthrightness is best.



i like that. but, what happens if she just looks at you with a blank look - or simply says no??

i think thats the real fear!!

[chiukit]

you're making it complicated by thinking too much, haha.

just take her out. make it romantic without telling her that it's going to be.

you know that you like her. and it seems like she likes you and you know it.

all you need is the starting point. by the end of the date, it should be obvious where it's going to go. (unless she doesnt wanna start anything cos of the long-d but lets hope it doesnt end up that way.) so at the end, just go with the flow.