how long shud u be able to last?

[Raptor]

pretty much wot the title says.
When having sex, how long shud u be able to last? Til the girl orgasms? for a certain time? Til you've had enough? Please tell me!

You always hear jokes and stuff about guys not lasting long, ie: only 3 1/2 mins, or 7 mins, but what is like the minimum time, although you shouldn't time it of course :)

And what happens if you cum early? What then? Ouch!

cheers for any answers!
Raptor

[kuju]

technically until the girl orgasms... but then some girls (like me) have trouble orgasming from sex (or we simply weren't with good sex partners... again, like me). I think in general, once you're experience and not blowing your load after 30 seconds, 8-10 minutes is a decent length of time. after that it might even get boring if she hasn't orgasmed yet, unless you're a REALLY experienced guy and can keep things going for a long time and keep it spiced up. my first sexual partner could eventually go about five minutes, but if I made any kind of sound, it would get him too excited. do you have any idea how annoying that is? I want to make sounds, but I can't! if I squeezed even a little, or tried to participate more, he would ejaculate. he didn't seem to understand the meaning of the word "harder" either.

Dammit... I need sex badly...

[WeeJeeBaby]

Definatly it depends on the couple.

I dont orgasm from sex either.. so usually i go for a lil game of oral fun before hand.
The time fluctuates..sometimes its shorter, sometimes its longer.. it depends on the situation as well..sometimes ur just too horny and u want to go fast..sometimes maybe ur in a romantic mood and want to go slow.

There is no minimum time..but obviously u dont want to just pleasure urself, but the girl as well (hopefully!) ,so if you cum too early, then ask if you can pleasure her..cuz you want her to be satisfied rite??

[Tootsie Pop]

if I made any kind of sound, it would get him too excited. do you have any idea how annoying that is? I want to make sounds, but I can't! if I squeezed even a little, or tried to participate more, he would ejaculate


Ha ha ha.. exactly my problem. Sometimes the second I move... its done. We should work on that....But, I guess its a good sign that he is into it and excited enough. :-?

[Am I tight or not?]

i have a problem. I last too long. it gets boring after a while.

i guess I should consider myself lucky, it will probably come in handy when I'll go out with a girl who actually enjoys sex.

[Bravehearter]

I am in no way trying to brag or anything but i just recently had my first time at the age of 19 ohh bout a month ago.. (just after new years) and I was SERIOUSLY expecting to be done in about ohh 15 seconds.. but amazingly my first time lasted about 10 minutes! The only other person more surprised then me was my gf!! She has had other partners in the past and expected me to be done WAYY sooner then that. She said she was pleasently surprised.

But i find myself going even longer then that now. But she can usually come within 6-7 minutes it seems.. i dont time it.. but we listen to music.. so i can kinda guess ya know..?

She seems pleasently surprised.. but its like she said.. if i came in a third of the time i do now she'd still be a happy girl.

But id say if you can last a good 5-10 minutes your in the ballpark.

[JohnSmith]

well i would say you have to last until the girl is pleased :)
more than 10 min definatly.

[goofball]

the average is actually approximately 7 minutes.

i usually go 20 or so minutes
but i've been known to go 3 minutes (espicialyl at first)

the thing is, usually, once i'm in i don't care about anything else and am always trying to go as fast as i can

[SupernaturalNympho]

This whole -orgasming too soon- thing is easily remedied.

Option #1:

Tease him! She can stimulate you enough to get you excited and ready (even if it takes very little) and then stop.....you both get calmed down enough to NOT orgasm. Then she brings you right back to the point of orgasm.....before stopping or slowing down enough that you lose some excitement. After a few times, you'll both be ready for an orgasm.

Option #2:

Let him orgasm! So she stimulates you -- you come 2 seconds later. Now, the guy gets to work the girl up into a frenzy (helloooo fun foreplay). Within about 20 minutes, he'll be ready to go again--- and this time he'll last a little longer because he'll have orgasmed once.

Both these methods are quick and easy...well not too quick hehe

[Raptor]

ok cheers guys, but a couple more questions if ya dont mind:):

If u cum b4 she does, do u keep going until she does, or are u not able to and u stop at that point???

and secondly, if she cums, do u keep going until u do, or are you expected cum there and then or stop? I've heard about girls having multiple orgasms and stuff but i'm not really sure.

Thanks to anyone who takes the time to reply.
Raptor

[Tootsie Pop]

After the guy cums, he stops becasue he cant go anymore. His erection is gone. If the girl comes first, there is this wonderful thing called "multiple orgasms." So if the girl has an orgasm first, the guy should just keep going. Maybe she will have another one.



pfft. I wish it would happen to me. :-?

[JohnSmith]

i could make it happen tootsie :) :D :D :D :D

[Kemoish]

Well, the first time you do it: About 45 seconds unless you are quite experienced with other things.

After a lot of times, you should be able to tell exactly when you are going to cum and stop or slow down enough for your excitement to go down. If you can do this, you could, technically, go for as long as you wanted. Just keep going until your g/f cums. It takes a lot of practice, especially after a long time, because then you start to get really excited and it's VERY hard to stop from just going for it.

[nicruns]

thats not exactly true tootsie. some guys can stay hard enough after they come to continue having sex. Ideally a guy would go until she cums but thats not always possible. you can always go down on her afterwards though :evil2:

[Tootsie Pop]

thats not exactly true tootsie. some guys can stay hard enough after they come to continue having sex.

is that so? I did not know that. Well, I guess I learned something today then. hmmm. Um, sorry for the false info then.